言语虐待者所说和所做的事情

我的问题是，如果这段关系是虐待性的，我真的会离开。我只是在和一个看起来很可爱的人约会，但他的注意力缺失症似乎会让他误解一些事情，他会向一百万个方向发展。我给了他3-4次机会，然后告诉他在最后一次联系我之后永远不要再联系我。在你的标题下，“言语虐待者做的事情”，当我看到第10条时，我说，“是的!!”平静地讨论这个问题是不可能的，因为他会说一些与问题本身无关的事情，说我说了我没有说的话，等等。就像一个口头乒乓球在房间里打得满地都是。我一开始给他传球是因为我觉得我每次都触动了他的敏感神经。但最后一次呢?他 .......!!!!我绝对没有做错任何事，人很好，很有礼貌，而他只是编造我所做的和所说的，批评我一些与他无关的事情，并且是彻头彻尾的辱骂。 Disappointing, but that was the end of that.

也许你的文章是写给女性的，但重要的是要记住(也许包括?)男性也会遇到的言语虐待。

当我读你的文章时，我知道虽然有一点不同，但意思是一样的。他从没叫过我婊子只是消极，性冷淡，冷漠，愚蠢没有他我都照顾不了自己我相信你懂的。这种情况持续了30年，然后在圣诞节前我们买了一块地，上面有一栋房子，我们已经有了一所房子，我们住在这里，这里有一个鹿场，从来没有人住过。我带一个朋友出去，他表现得很奇怪，他说他后来喝了小酒，但我看到他喝了很多啤酒。我想他不会在她面前说什么，所以没关系。不是他在她面前大骂我，我们就走了。我很生气，当他回家时，我不和他说话。她很生气，她告诉她丈夫他很生气，他打电话给我儿子说圣诞节到了，我们还是不说话，当他妹妹出现时，一切都爆发了，我们的儿子和他父亲大吵了一架。我朋友的丈夫也在电话里指责他的行为和酗酒，而他的妹妹则在一旁安慰他。他在新街区住了一个月，然后告诉我我可以拥有那栋房子，前提是它要靠近中心林克。 So I went to see about benefits and found out I'd have to go on a disbality payment as I have a chronic illness. I told my husband who then decided he would look after me and pay the bills. We started talking and I went to visit him one day and stayed the night he said he was extremely hungover and barely spoke, the next day he said he was trying to teach my daughter a lesson for not talking to him. So I explained she was not happy with what had happened and she doesn't like your yelling when you drink. He exploded and told me that's why he was staying here so he could drink what he wanted and wouldn't have to yell at us and he doesn't give a rats...what we think about anything. I left once again. It's been 3mths and he has not come home for a night. Then he gave my daughter a rather large sum of money for her birthday thinking it would be fixed. He now comes over quite often has been very well behaved I know he wants to reconcile and I do miss him. He makes fleeting little remarks that I know he is trying but I would like to trust him but I can't. I also at the moment cannot become intimate with him because of all this. I feel he let me down so much while I was sick and made me feel so helpless. The problem is that this has worsened over the years from every so often to every 2nd month to everyday, He came from a very physically violent home and he feels he is different to his father as he doesn't hit me. His whole family just think drinking till you are incoherent or blackout is normal and so is aggressiveness. Heaven help me I still feel he isn't a lost cause. Can alcoholics change Or is it just a fantasy of mine?

我不确定我是否在言语/情感上受到虐待，或者有很多可怜的聚会。几年前我作弊被抓过，而且总是被人指责。我很外向，但我的配偶不是。他原谅了我，但从那以后，他做了一些他认为是错误的事情。我对他撒谎，不告诉他我做过什么事，也不告诉他我和谁说过话，以避免让他难过。有几次我们做爱的时候，他问我为什么这么放荡。每次我打电话的时候，他总是问我在和谁说话。他对我的身体有负面评价，有时还说我有多性感。有时我觉得自己陷入困境，需要逃离。我已经向他表达过了，他很擅长操纵我的思想，让我觉得我错了。 So much more...any advice?

听起来你更像是在磨斧头而不是真正帮助别人。你无法改变别人，尝试也毫无意义。你能做的最好的事情就是修复自己，然后你就能更有力量。你是受害者，还是胜利者?你自己决定，不要让别人替你做选择。这是针对女性的，这可能是大多数时候的情况，但也有很多男性克服了虐待，在寻求帮助时需要联系，或者一些鼓励的话。

我没有不尊重任何人的意思。你们是男人还是老鼠(女人还是胆小鬼)。如果你对我的生活有所了解，你会觉得你每天都在迪士尼乐园。那是因为你就是这么看的。因为丈夫的言语虐待而感到沮丧的女士只是在承受硬币的另一面，你小时候被虐待过，他也一样。尽可能快地逃离彼此，不要责怪其他人。请去教堂，(诚实地)向上帝敞开你的心扉。这是唯一的答案。不要怀有仇恨，那比恶言恶语更能杀死你。上帝保佑!

我和我最小孩子的“父亲”有大约两年半的虐待关系。我想一切都像正常的关系一样开始。我们相处得很好，从来没有争吵过。然后一切都变了，他就在我眼前变了。它开始于在公共场合对我的外表或性格的“玩笑”。如果我说了什么天真的话，他一定会发表评论，让我难堪，但是以玩笑的形式。这种行为持续了一段时间。当我向他提起这件事时，他说我太敏感了。有一段时间，我真的认为可能是这样，所以我放手了。忽略你可能说的评论。 Then came the sarcasm. I was never sure if he was trying to be humorous or hurtful. My self esteem started dropping drastically while these things were going on. I ended up getting pregnant and I remember him telling me to get an abortion. I stood up for myself and told him there was no way that was going to happen. We got into an argument one night and he grabbed me by both if my arms so hard he left black and blue marks. I remember trying to find clothing that would cover it up even though it was summertime. I thought the bruises had gone away and my mom saw them. Like many abused women I told her I hurt myself at work. Then, while still pregnant, he threw me down onto a bed. He was constantly looking at other women in front of me. He would tell me it was my problem and to just "deal with it." Then I had my daughter and man was she beautiful. He didnt stay in the hospital with us. He told me itvwasn't comfortable and he was going home to sleep. Once home he would constantly yell at me and get in my face with these crazy looking eyes. Most abused women will know what I mean. He has spit on me, choked me, pushed me, thrown me down, cut himself in front of me, threatened to call the police due to marks I put on him defending myself, threatened to take my daughter from me, threatened to call CPS on m, said he should've killed me, has broken my drivers door to my car, punched my rearview mirror breaking it while I was driving down the highway at 65 miles an hour WITH my daughter in the car. When I went to leave the first time he said he was buying shotgun shells and he was going to kill himself. That time was before the physical abuse. Alot of emotional abuse transpired as well. Every name in the book and things like "I look at other women cause you have no breasts", "I'm looking at other women to replace you because you aren't attractive to me anymore". He said that one while we were out with my daughter who was a few months old. I don't view him as a dad so I use "my daughter". When I left him I had my daughter in her stroller as I was bringing things out to put into the car. That way I could keep her with me at all times. He started throwing our things out of my car, including her car seat. His mother was there and totally confused so I told her I was leaving cause her son was abusive towards me. Of course he denied it. I continued pushing her in the stroller while gathering my things. He got in my car and claimed he was going with me cause he had things at my mom's house. I told him to "get the f out if my car". Once he got out I had both my daughter and myself locked in the car. He was trying to get in and slapping the windows and trying to open the doors. Once he realized he was locked out he stood behind my car. I got out to tell his mom to make him move. He ran up and pushed my drivers door so far forward he bent the hinges and I couldn't close it. His mother helped me close it and I left without the stroller. I now have a wonderful man who I am engaged to who has NEVER raised a hand to me or my daughter. It took some time but I found him. To all the women out there going through this......please leave! Don't wait hoping he will change. You or your children can afford to stay in that kind of environment. You know what else? You ARE beautiful. You ARE smart. You ARE special. It's not your fault so don't you EVER think it is! Leaving a relationship like this is scary but its sooo worth it. You deserve to be happy and never settle for less. Much love ladies. Stay true to you or no one else will. Leave and start getting back to you. Stop hurting and blaming yourself. They are not even close to being worth your time or energy. Take it from someone who knows.

看到有帮助真是太好了!
但我是个男人，没有什么能帮到我!

我最近很失落，很沮丧。五年前，我离开了一段身心受到虐待的关系，投入了一个最亲密朋友的怀抱。起初，一切都很好……他让我觉得自己很棒，很特别。但几乎没有迹象表明……比如，如果我对什么事情感到恐慌，他就会抓狂，或者如果他大喊大叫，我畏缩，他就会生气，说他不是我的前任……不要这样对待他。我们已经订婚4年了，我们住在一起，一起养宠物，我们的财务状况也纠缠在一起。当我崩溃，崩溃，威胁要离开的时候，情况会暂时好转。他试着…但随着时间的推移，他每天晚上都沉迷于玩电子游戏，忽视家务，对我的动物、我的消费或我的朋友感到愤怒。 He's always been a jokester, but lately he calls me things like "cunt" (I HATE that word and he knows it), then when I get upset he says "IT's just a word...you have to be an adult and not let words get to you." Or he says "I just don't feel like sex anymore..with anyone" and will go days without even giving me a kiss or hug...but when I cry and tell him I feel lonely and unloved he says he doesn't want me to feel that way; he's sorry. He will be more careful what he says. My family hates him (he's made fun of my little brother and insulted them too), my friends don't want to do things with both of us (they don't like him either), but I love him. I feel like he doesn't mean to treat me badly; his mom physically and mentally abused him as a kid...I know he grew up not knowing love....
我感到很纠结，我的朋友和家人一直劝我离开;情况不会好转。但我觉得如果我走了会让他失望。我身体生病，情绪崩溃....

多年来，我一直处于一段身体、情感和精神上都受到虐待的婚姻中。我的孩子们都长大了，我也曾多次离开和回来。这样的循环。甚至在和我们的牧师做了很多咨询之后离婚了，又再婚了。大约3年后，它又回来了。现在因为个人原因，我和孙子住了几个月。我需要出去，我知道这很可怕，需要有人倾诉。这很难，因为几个星期过去了，一切都很好，然后砰的一声，它又来了。我有很多账单之类的，恐怕我一个人做不来。我照顾了大家这么长时间，现在不知道如何照顾自己。 Anyone else have this happen?

我很担心我女儿。在她结婚之前，她充满活力，活泼，真正的快乐，对世界漠不关心。然后她怀孕了，非常兴奋，她的丈夫就没有那么兴奋了!
现在孩子出生两个月了，T是个混蛋。你对我不忠，我不能相信你，你为什么不去找份工作?别懒了，做点什么吧。
她太沮丧了!!她只是哭，一点也不高兴。我鼓励她出去，但她不想拆散她的家庭。我该怎么办?我很爱她。

巴尼…找一个能让你被爱和关怀包围的教堂……好的人是存在的，我就是一个活生生的证明。就像女人一样，男人也需要指导和培养，所以不要退缩或孤立，因为你可能会担心有人会认为你不够男人，不能接受她!上帝认为你的男人已经足够了，他应该是你唯一关心的人，他会如何看待你或看待你……奔向他……上帝如此爱你……Mj

就我而言，从五岁起，言语虐待就成了我的一部分。我是在我妈妈和继父身边长大的，我亲眼目睹了几年，当她心烦时，她也会对我表现出同样的态度。在31岁的时候成为一个男人，去理解生活和我们所拥有的东西，然后几分钟后，它就因为不成熟和我对一个简单问题的反应方式而失去了。两个人都是温和型的夫妻，所以我们让愤怒累积了很多年，但总有一个爆发点。当我的第一个女儿茉莉来到我们的生活时，我的前任完全有权利觉得我因为我的过去而背叛了她。我看着她，告诉自己我不希望任何人欺骗她，所以我向她保证不欺骗她的妈妈，但伤疤已经在那里了，那是在她17岁的时候……我们的争吵就像十分钟一场飓风，脏话连篇，你能想到的最糟糕的是，我开始吸毒来忽视这个问题，她用言语侮辱我，我一直保持冷静，直到药都用完了。我的加入让她看到了我心中的愤怒……但我们会很高兴它能工作15年，我改造了她，让她去上学，但当我去上学时，她认为我在和所有的女孩调情。我没有参加毕业典礼，因为我不想听那些废话。然而，当她毕业了，她走了，我觉得她从来没有我找到了一个人的电话号码，我很沮丧，因为我看起来像一个白痴在她的家人面前打架。所以我开始骂她，现在我意识到，我感觉很糟糕，因为她总是站在我这边，我们总是互相帮助，除了负面的…我认为作为夫妻,我们需要互相倾听和理解我们生活在这样一个世界,那里没有时间。所以我有麻烦依法33第一次进了监狱,我唯一的朋友,因为我是一个家庭的人漂流更高远,当我让我的库存flawsto意识到我错了,我的心不是我的大脑…和业力是真实的,不是有趣的35岁我和这个女孩在一起的一个星期内verbaly侮辱我我就像什么……在过去的3个月里，她怀上了我的小女儿shyala .. 2013年1月，我接到社会服务的电话，shyala妈妈摇晃了她，她把她送到了急诊室，她的借口是shayla哭了，他们拍了照片，她压力很大…我只是发现她一直是一个伴游和她的妈妈和姐姐..她告诉我的家人我给了她性病....我还没叫过她的名字，但我告诉她这不是我想要的生活，所以当她告诉我她怀孕了的时候，我走开了，但我在那里买了孩子，这总是一场斗争，所以我离开了，我认为我是问题所在，所以如果我离开了，玛丽亚会压力很大，拿孩子出气，我发现她和陌生人住在一起。 now i now my ex didnt deserve me calling her names over something that she wasnt doing....now i stay aways from shyala mom i went to seek for help from differnce resource and it suck i got to wait till court date now i find out she named shyala as her ex boyfreind initials...verbal abuse is not ok but as a human you could only take so much and words scar and never heal but if you have communication any thing can be done cause it take two to start a fight and take a real man or man to walk away from it and not judge the other person that comes along to be the same every one deserve the benifit of the doubt..a quick view of my own personal life

我不能评估我的情况，想要阅读评论。两年半前，在经历了几年的压力(为他和前妻的孩子而斗争)后，我开始吸烟。我还有未确诊的情境性抑郁症。我过去从不吸烟，我丈夫也不吸烟。他再也不碰我了，还说过这样的话:“吸烟者是你能找到的最接近人渣的人。”我经常受到评论和鄙视。我每天抽4-6香烟，在室外吸烟。他说我一定认为吸烟比我的感情更重要。事实并非如此。如果他开始抽烟，我绝不会把他当废物看待。

谢谢你。虽然我没有言语上的关系，但我的上一段关系已经结束了。老实说，我以为那是因为我恐慌发作了，说了一些我不是故意的可怕的话。我哭了又哭，道歉了，很痛苦，感觉很糟糕，但那家伙不接受。我认为我是一个“言语虐待者”。但我承认我错了，道歉，并且从未否认过。另一方面，他把整件事都怪在我身上，甚至不愿为自己的部分负责，所以也许这是一件好事，因为这可能会让他的情绪变得非常糟糕。我为所有经历过这种事情的人感到抱歉。我有一个朋友，她的丈夫经常言语暴力，后来演变成了身体虐待。

当我听到这些故事时，我的心都碎了。我被我父亲虐待，总是打我，会告诉我，我像我母亲一样出来。她和他哥哥有外遇。总是怪我。嗨s parents help raise my sister and I was 5 years old when they got divorse.I had so much shame growing up at 17 i hooked up with a older guy who worked and would take me out later got pregnet and he started abusing me.We were together for 8 years.One day while he went to work after having two children ages 5 and 3 i desided to plan to leave him before he kill me or I would kill him. Then months later I met another guy which didnt hit me but had a drinking problem but loved and care for my children and that was the only reason I got close to him. Well he cheated and spend all his money at the bars and on whores.But later he promise he was going to change we started going to church and got married.Well that lasts only a year but again another relationship.I kept going to church and I ask Jesus Christ into my heart and would get stronger. So last straw was when after being married he stayed out all night and I saw a hicky on his neck I ran into the kitchen and grabed a knife to kill him.He ran out the door after that I desided I needed to stay alone for awhile to heal from all my broken hearts.I got strong worked and raised my sons.But I do have to say to everyone who stays it will effect your childrens.My sons have anger problems and the oldest always blames me.For everything that goes wrong in his life. I am now married again to a man who dont drink or cheat loves me but I view him has a weak man never sticks up for him self and i find my self being the abuser now which I hate but working on it with Gods help.Life is strange but I promise my self no man would abuse me ever again.God bless

我和我男朋友在一起3年了，我们之间有11岁的年龄差，他30岁，我19岁。
这一切都始于我离开家3个月后发现我们彼此看到从我的母亲我选择他或我的家人我选择了他,然后我们呆在一个平面在顶层,至今已经有100多年的历史了,沮丧的他总是很冷,我呆在家里没有家庭只有他,然后我们开始争论愚蠢的事情,我的情绪是到处都没有帮助,我开始变得抑郁和焦虑，我想做的就是把自己锁起来，从来不出门。我还有一只狗，因为她，她是我每天起床的唯一原因，这样我就可以遛她，喂她等等……
所以我们在这个公寓住了6个月的争论不断,我保持我的秘密的抑郁症在生活6个月的一天晚上,他工作,我只是坏了我想杀了自己的警察是我的男朋友我地上所以我不能移动我一直秘密自我伤害,我的男朋友必须让接触到我的家人,让他们知道我的格兰和母亲和邻居一起运行在房子里我不得不去看看帮助等。
然后他们把我带到一个新公寓，在那里我感觉更快乐了，我的头脑也轻松了很多，但大约一个月后，我们的争吵开始慢慢发生，现在争吵增加了很多，他没有意识到，他激怒了我，我让他走开或离开房间，我可以冷静下来呼吸，但他没有，他一直威胁说要给我家人打电话，或者说我需要帮助等等……然后我回复保卫自己和它变得更加激烈,我们发誓,尖叫和大叫,彼此,好多次在我的脸,他有叫我的名字或者抓住我的脚踝,知道我不喜欢所以我将打击他,但现在捍卫自己摆脱他了,它最终会在事情被整个房间或我思考死亡和试图杀死我自己,我只是不知道要做什么了。

我真的需要一些关于我和我丈夫关系的建议，你能告诉我从哪里可以得到帮助吗?

我想知道怎么治好我。我从来没有一个男人对我好。在我的整个成年生活中，我一直被殴打、折磨和言语攻击。我现在48岁了。
最新的消息告诉我，有趣的是脱掉衣服，照照镜子。他说我是神经病婊子，婊子，婊子，笨蛋等等。他欺骗我，放我鸽子，从来没有给我买过礼物。他不给我付账单。我知道我不该和他在一起，但我不知道我为什么留下来。我知道他很坏。我想要快乐

我很困惑我我和我的伙伴的关系现在已经在一起7年以来,我一直与他16岁我现在23岁,和他的两个孩子我知道,当我们第一次聚在一起这是神奇的我很爱他我不是漂亮的女孩,所以我曾经很感激我有一个男朋友对我很好,爱我如此多的时候我就会看他在他睡觉时,只是因为我很高兴有他几个月就通过他开始说一些很刻薄的话，让我觉得他不再爱我了，他会告诉我，我觉得我不能和一个如此痴迷的人在一起，然后几个月过去了，我们会争吵，他总是把我赶出他的房子，在外面下雨的时候，他从窗户看着我，用最难听的名字骂我。我以前觉得很无助的我开始骗我看到另一个人,想跟我分手x但他来到男人的房子和砸我的车,把我给我他的面前我知道我毁掉了作弊这种关系,但我看到了让我感觉像个公主,我很年轻我不知道任何更好的年过去了,我们的关系变成了屎他总是查找互联网色情和女孩欺骗和谎言都是我们的关系是建立在19岁old I feel pregnant to him I was undecided on wether to have the baby because he was also very hooked on pot and talked shit and never took anything serious but he promised me he would change I was going to change for him to I had all my goals and plans set out we moved into a unit together and tried to change our lives but he just wouldn't stop with the abuse calling me names 24/7 telling me I was a fat bush pig even tho I was pregnant I put up with it hoping he was going to change when the baby came but things only ended up getting worse he was hiding a phone that I got of my mom and I just went missing one day I always thought I left it in the car and it got stolen and he everyday he was saying
对我来说，哦，隔壁偷了我们的手机，有一天他把我的车也开走了，它就在座位下面，我很生气，这一切都解释了为什么他这么虐待我，我打电话给我的房东，告诉他我要搬。他说我们都有移动然后我们分手了,我是一个单身母亲,失去了他的一个朋友,我从来没有喜欢我开始看到他在做什么他然后变得如此对我好,当我x会虐待我,他会告诉我,我不是他说什么,我们成了非常接近他对待我的儿子好我最终下降对他和我们见面一段时间不管怎样我x发现,因为这是他的伴侣x希望我事情变得更糟回来我们一起回来我有另一个孩子他每天得到滥用/小事他不断提出我作弊,但忘记他所做的事对我来说每天他叫我一个大鼻子胖婊子跟我告诉我他讨厌睡觉之类的东西,因为他看到我有两个孩子,它的票房收入他他告诉我加油小鸡在妓院收紧阴道然后我说他讨厌看我的身体,因为我已经在我的肚子,让疤痕他生病了他告诉我我是一抛屎的母亲我要自杀,问题是当我们回来我们一起同意不再作弊,不再虐待我坚守我的承诺,但我仍然会虐待每天当我对他说不需要叫我的名字,他带来了过去,说我的错我有看昨天我对他说喜欢我自己,我说的是什么你这么长时间快点F和他过马路,开始喊关闭丫脂肪荡妇你知道我们必须过来丫fukn鸟发现谈论我的鼻子我终于有足够的女儿用来走路说脂肪母狗她妈妈胖2和我的儿子在3每天叫我大鼻子我想自杀我甚至潮湿的角落里哭泣我的眼睛和我的伴侣在我的头发在我提示水吐在我身上,告诉我停止鞭打者他推我,甚至打我告诉我的孩子,当我在房间里,哭哦别担心，孩子们，你们的妈妈根本不在乎你们，然后一边走一边自言自语，说你们连自己的孩子都照顾不好……我的母亲不久前被强奸了，他说，“该死的，你妈妈被强奸了，这就是你应该发生的事。我从这一切中伤痕累累，但我忍不住想，这是我的错吗，即使我现在知道了，因为我已经很努力了，虐待没有停止，我试着为他做一切，只是得到屎我。不大声说出来我没有朋友了我只想自杀

我妈骂我是愚蠢的婊子你妈操你妈把我推来推去威胁我说她会叫警察来抓我还有很多其他的事我说过自杀43次19次我差点就自杀了。她甚至不记得我的生日。而且当她搞砸的时候，我也会因此受到责备和惩罚。然后她说如果我不闭嘴，她就要掐死我。然后把我叔叔叫来，我叔叔进我房间打我。这一切都是因为我想要为我自己而反抗我妈妈。然后我钻进毯子里，哭着睡着。然后我叔叔让我在他进去之前闭上我的嘴帮我闭上。我不知道该怎么办。我很害怕。 I was born with with ADHD,ODC,ODD,I'm otistic or how ever you spell that. Yeah I suck at spelling. Plus a belly

你好，我从东海岸搬到西海岸，只认识我的男朋友，这在几个月里很棒。然后他开始骂我，说我在撒谎。我妈妈在东部中风，病得很重，所以我和女儿收拾行李去陪她。虽然我只在那里呆了3个月，但却变成了6个月。不管怎样，他把我赶回来了。我的儿子还和他爸爸在东海岸，所以我把嗡嗡声带了回来。事情变得很糟糕，他总是欺负我的女儿，骂她的名字，她11岁，很快就会经历变化，叫她宝贝，甚至说她是一坨屎。我儿子17岁，他说他懒惰，是个同性恋，其实他都不是。你让我的孩子们做什么，他们都会做。大家都说我是贱人，垃圾，一无是处，但我有工作。 good for nothing, whore,he says he feels like stabbing me,i need to go, get out, go away, we dont even have sex you are like a dead fish, well ofcourse be called all this and treat my kids like crap to, how do you expect me to be. i cook,clean and my job is to take care of his mom and i do that 24-7 with no help from him. its sad.i drove my car from east to west and he only gave me money to sleep in a hotel 1 night, so i drove and it took me 2 and a half days, with two kids. i drove my car into the ground and its been sitting since aug of 2012, he will not help me get it fixed, his broke and got it fixed the next day. he brings almost 3000 hime every month, compared to my 1000 and askes me for money. whats with that, i dont mind helping but i cant respect someone who talks like that to me or my kids. when i talk to my friends, i get who you talking to. i have no friends here. im told to bow to him, he says its a joke though. i dont even have no one here to talk to. i have no where to go. in need of a frined to talk to. please email me atitsjoey2@yahoo.com

2011年11月，我患上了脑瘤，从那以后，我一直很难接受大脑受伤的事实。由于手术造成的损伤以及肿瘤导致的脑积水，我的记忆非常模糊。从那以后，我丈夫觉得拿我脑损伤开玩笑很有趣。他曾因为我的记忆力问题公开取笑我。他否认当有人对他说这是卑鄙的。他甚至告诉我，我的康复对我来说很困难，对他来说是两倍的困难，因为我不能像以前那样工作了。这种行为算虐待吗?他说，不是因为我女儿责备他，而是因为当他说这些话时，其他人似乎真的被冒犯了，感到不舒服。我就是不知道……我知道，在我生病之前，我绝不会忍受这样的对待。

Kmr，去你当地的医院，那里有处理家暴问题的咨询师，你可以拨打家暴热线。我不知道你住在哪里，但从咨询开始是个好主意。即使你没有保险，医院也应该接受你，如果你没有钱，试试你的过渡援助部门申请临时资金，他们是由国家管理的，告诉他们你的情况，也许他们可以帮助你。你也可以领取食品券，远离已婚男人，如果可以的话，远离男人一段时间，没有人值得被侮辱。你不该受到这样的待遇。祝你好运

我丈夫从小到大一直受到他母亲的言语虐待。他还在晕头转向，因为她还时不时地做这种事，我亲眼见过。有时他不在的时候，她甚至在跟我说话的时候也这样做。我一直在到处寻找我们可以读的书，这样他就可以控制他对这个问题的感受，这样我们就可以一起解决问题，但到目前为止，我看到的都是关于男人虐待妻子的书。有人知道存在什么东西可以对他/我们有所帮助吗?谢谢你！

从我十几岁开始，我约会和结婚的男人都想照顾我，不让我找工作。如果我真的找到了工作，他们就会指责我，强行拿走我的收入，然后他们就会骂我是一个毫无价值的婊子。(我学会了像他们那样讨厌自己)我把我的生命献给了丈夫，醒着的每一刻都满足他的需求。而我的却置之不理。现在我46岁了，09年被遗弃……仍然有需求，医疗(狼疮和癌症)，牙科，被指责许多丑陋的事情。不支持。我没有交通工具，也没有事业，不认识我被扔进的计算机世界，也不知道我将如何生存。我或我11岁的孩子可能有我在年轻时无法发掘的才能。丈夫不允许。 i was told that this is how it's always been for women when husbands deny them, the women become whores and that is my destiny so accept it. truthfully, I would make a terrible whore, I hate sex (I am bad at it)and traumatized by people, rejected and not taken seriously, beaten, raped, there is more. I isolate. is there anything to help overcome? Turn this around to a successful end? New beginning for child and I as success for leaving him? I left everything except my child. Child is counting on me and prayers being answered to help his mom help us... He prays someone has a truck or car to release it to mom, and someone willing to train mom on a job will pay the bills and not need any help from another man financially so mom don't have to give away the money for a black eye or broken nose again. no more cleaning up blood. and a peaceful, enjoyable life in these last years with mom alone...love my child so much. also be surrounded by a few good people in life, not haters

我是否处于一段虐待关系中。我的伴侣叫我渣，还经常把我的过去扔到我面前。我走在蛋壳上，如果这不是他想听到的，他就会去，或者把电话放在我身上。他叫我的孩子被宠坏了，什么也不做，只是对他们咆哮。他不帮忙做家务，还说我以前做过一份工作，现在又找了一份，真是太蠢了!他现在告诉我是虐待，因为我试图站在我的立场，当他去。以前他骂我的时候我就哭，现在我就默默地哭，不然的话他就说把水厂关了，他经常威胁要离开，到了发薪日还威胁要没收我所有的工资，这样我就付不起账单了。我的孩子们过去总喜欢他我最小的孩子现在叫他收拾行李
除此之外，他还告诉我，他不跟我睡觉，因为他受不了我，但晚上过后，他就像皮疹一样缠着我。我叫他胖婊子，当他去，他总是回答说，你需要手术的状态，我瘦了10英石，但现在希望我没有。

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我想我在口头虐待关系当我们开始约会的一切是最好的但不可或缺,时间的流逝,他开始我之类的东西如果我对一个人说话的朋友,因为我想操他或我已经做在几秒钟内就击倒我生病哭一个地狱告诉我为什么哭泣他们没有哭,如果我要loike回家去,别的地方哭泣。不可或缺我们不能有一个好的谈话没有他我讲讲我和别人做爱我尝试一切秀,他可以停止对我的方式我不会说谎的日子他是最好的一个我记得温家宝我们刚开始,但只能持续几小时他检查我的手机,我不在乎因为我不隐藏任何东西但是如果我想看看他的他不让我他尼告诉我事情虽然告诉我回家,我不需要在看他的电话他说他乐芙适我他带我去见他的家人,但他开始告诉我事情想我喜欢哥哥,我刚刚遇到了一个dat伤害秀他离开我独自哒我曾和他的家人有一个我有一个真的很难隐藏我的感觉一个真正容易哭泣,但他不在乎他会说,我开始我爱他但我不知道wuyt做他的妈妈告诉我,他也爱我一个dat傻但仍然疼,他视我如粪土dat他不管出于什么原因，请帮帮我

我想让每个人都知道，在过去的几天里，有人给我带来了精神上的痛苦“例子”，把我的车弄坏了，我不能在没有男人奇怪地看着我的情况下散步，当这种情况发生时，女人和男人都看着我，对我咧嘴笑，糟糕的事情发生在我或我的车身上。我的孩子们说，我已经被惩罚得够多了，诸如此类的话。每天从床上醒来，我有时觉得我的生命和健康处于危险之中。我讨厌这种感觉，不知道会发生什么。我觉得这种生活不适合我。我觉得我最终会被送进医院的精神科，因为有人在虐待我。我说，当男人不被邀请进入我的圈子时，他们不能领会暗示，这“真的”令人难过。我并不是说每个男人都想要我。不，我只是说那些绝望的男人为了达到目的不惜一切代价在情感上杀死我。有人说我多疑了，但我没有。 I know what I see and I know what people are doing to me. I hope the police catches whom ever is causing me emotional stress towards me. This person must be good in finding ways to provoke me and frighten me. He will never leave me alone I already know that.
我觉得这个人永远不会离开我。我跟别人谈过，那个人说我多疑，那不是真的。有人动了我的车，我的孩子们对我说了一些奇怪的话，比如在发现有人又动了我的车后，我听到了“我已经受到了足够的惩罚”这样的话!我给警方发了邮件，但还是发生了一些事情。有人告诉我，我认为所有的男人都想要我，这不是真的。我知道不是所有男人都要我。我不知道人们怎么能忍受自己对我做的事。我感觉被侵犯了，压力很大。我很乐意让警察知道是谁在骚扰我。他们告诉我，我被这些男人骚扰和跟踪是我的错。 I don’t need this aggravation in my life. Will they stop, who knows.
我从没想过每个男人都想要我。但是有一个我认为是好人的人说了这么多，好像我是偏执狂，我不是。我真的不在乎一个男人看不看我。我才不在乎呢。我不在乎他们是否能给我月亮和星星，我一点也不在乎!坦白地说，我有一个即使受伤了也能工作的大脑。但如果他们被抓，后果将很严重。我不在乎他们现在是否会笑，但他们会合法地得到它。严重骚扰是有后果的，这是一种犯罪，他们会得到他们应得的。

亲爱的巴尼,
你为什么想让她回来?这样你就能见到你儿子了?这种情况对你的孩子也不好。你得开始记录一切找几个目击者看看她的行为。如果有必要的话，打电话给警察告发她的大麻(确保你不吸烟)。那孩子的监护权就归你了，不是她。你可以在保姆那里找一份工作，照顾孩子或让家人帮你。她的行为已经伤害到了孩子们。你想这样教育你的儿子如何成为一个男人吗?他们看到她是如何对待你的，他们会长大，可能会开始怨恨你。 They may learn to hate women and become abusive. She's behaving this way because she's getting away with it and she acts nice sometimes to keep you hoping for something better. It's not you. You're not bad because she is behaving badly. She's the one who is wrong. Why are you taking this from her? You may be in your child ego state and you are letting her be the abusive parent. Were you abused by any females as a child? You are not a child now. You are a man and you don't have to feel like you are bad anymore. Remember, you are not a child anymore and you don't have to take this woman's sh-t even if you were the one to pursue her again. That doesn't mean she gets to do whatever she wants. Make plans to get out of that situation with the kids.

你好。我处在一段被虐待的关系中。我们有两个漂亮的儿子。她总是生气。8年的发脾气和指责。砸和扔。她的撕裂使我困惑。我该如何应对一个充满愤怒和仇恨的人?我不能见我的朋友，我日夜工作12小时。在我休假的日子里，如果我想见任何人，哪怕是家人，只要一个小时，她就会尖叫，让我不要回来。 I'm lazy and do nothing at her house( I sold my house after pur first son born to get another together) she left me an took my baby and became pregnant with another. Then took me back and he is my beautiful son now. Other man she hates apparently. Spends all our money on weed. Goes out all the time but says she never goes out. I was happy once. Lots of friends now none. I can't watch tv at hers. Can't eat unless she does. Can't smoke unless she is. Can't talk to any women even mothers from boys school without anger at home. Crying. Then when she has weed money clothes chocolate all good again. I AM A MAN. I'm starting to believe its me. I clean up always an never complain about the mess. I make the dinners. I was told tonight agter 12 hour day that I wasn't allowed a bath. Never allowed to sleep in, days off take boys to school but go nowhere else. She sleeps in. I am a good person I think. I don't know anymore. I am sorry for you all. I am. Please have good and happy lives.

我结婚23年了，书里的名字我都叫过，我讨厌C字。我的手机关机短信屏蔽，数据屏蔽，次数太多了，这让我讨厌手机。
他让sprint家庭定位器定位了我的手机，说我在几英里内，并显示了一个地址，所以他认为我一定是和某个男人在一起，被诬告出轨，见了某人，试图给他介绍对象..他打电话给我，在我睡觉的时候不停地给我发短信，并威胁要关掉我的手机..令人震惊。当他在外地工作的时候，他总是不停地给我打电话，指责我出轨，疑心我出轨，甚至问我们三个已经成年的女儿，妈妈是不是在和别人约会。他每隔一段时间就会自己服用冰毒，但现在看来，今年是最糟糕的，从我开始跟踪的情况来看，他每两周就会自己服用冰毒。他非常性欲亢奋，当他兴奋或躁狂时，他会看电视和手机上的色情片。但他撒谎了，
谎言，谎言，一切谎言，唯独没有指责我说谎。他拿走了我的钥匙，翻了我的钱包和电话，说什么都是他的。我们租的不是自己的，因为他的信用不好，他的赌博和糟糕的金钱决策。因为他有写支票的历史，所以他的银行账户是我的，所以他的支票存在我的银行，但他有一张卡。他让人把支票寄到外地，而不是存入银行付账。他总是花光银行存款，但每年却能赚10万美元。然而，我们总是身无分文。他说了些刻薄伤人的话。当我说我来例假时，他认为我在撒谎，想看看我是不是真的……在女孩们小的时候，他总是辱骂她们，但我认为他只是个混蛋，工作太累了。大多数女孩年轻时他都在城外工作，所以我就像一个单身的已婚母亲……他的父亲对他进行言语和身体上的虐待。 I used to fight back but that one time I ended up with a broken nose.. When he is normal he can be amazing, fun,giving.loving,tells me I'm the world to him, he says I'm beautiful,he's lucky to have me then flips a switch and says hurtful things.One of our daughters was diagnosed with bipolar 1 so I'm guessing he is bipolar too.He was diagnosed with adult ADHD after a physical fight. He went to jail ,took a anger management classes and they said hes full blown ADHD. He is the one that works and pays for everything so he holds that over my head,while I do all the cooking,cleaning,laundry,take out the garbage,clean the garage.i I have worked in the past and still took the girls to school,sports,doc,dentist apts.. but with a daughter that was diagnosed bipolar 4 yrs ago makes it tough.She cant work,sometimes cant sleep,gets very verbally abusive and angry and that's hard enough knowing suicide rate is high for bipolar rapid cyclers.my other two daughter moved out a few yrs ago and ....I'm in hell living in a house with a 22 yr old bipolar daughter and I believe a ADHD/Bipolar husband..he even make my life hell when he works out of town,where he has gotten drunk or did drugs while he had to work the next day.He has gone out all night and has come home the next morning with some lie of where he was.When he is high or manic he lurks around the house,though FBI was in the attic, or heard voices coming from the bathroom vent, thinking hes going to catch some guy in the house Its creepy.I'm 46 yrs old and don't have time for these games. He demands all my email and passwords,constantly goes though my phone,changes my voice mail password, and if I get mad he will quit his job and drive home or not deposit the check into the bank. He always seems distracted and doesn't listen very well,hince the ADHD...very messy,disorganized,forgetful,loses everything.pees on the toilet seat, doesn't clean up his messes wherever he is....couch,kitchen,bedroom exc...Oh and he has bough me jewelry over the yrs but it always ends up back in the pawn shop.i have lost things in the pawn shops over the yrs. Some birthdays,Christmas's he didn't get me anything but always tried to make up for it later with here is 100 bucks go by yourself something.One yr all stocking we stuffed but mine...not surprising..I stuffed the stockings and told him don't forget mine...but he did.he ever went to the casino Christmas morning..Every holiday he either go to the casino or fs up somehow.
可悲的是，我爱他，但不能再控制了…有个躁郁症的女儿压力已经够大了，还要应付她的操纵，控制和愤怒，压力太大了。他说他从来没有欺骗过我，但玩了邪恶的语言游戏，说他和谁有过，然后说他这么做只是为了看看我是否会承认我是否出轨……邪恶的心理游戏。
他有时很消极，就像我如履薄冰，不知道今天要对付的是这两种邪恶中的哪一种。因此，我希望有人读到这篇文章，并下定决心，要么与精神疾病抗争到底，要么继续前进....我真的认为情况会变得更糟，而不是更好。

让他发疯的都是些微不足道的小事。例如，昨晚他开始大喊大叫和辱骂，因为我忘记了我几分钟前抽过烟，而我正在向他要烟。我不记得抽过烟——我没有抽过烟的味道，手上也没有烟的味道。我从不中途停下来抽烟。我从来没有。说到我做事的方式，我很挑剔/我是个完美主义者——我做的每件事都是有顺序的。我从不偷工减料或另辟蹊径。我从来没有在工作中途停下来抽烟休息过。他认为是我干的——其实我心里有数!4sake of argument I said I must have forgot.My forgetfulness was enuf reason 4 (inc.this a.m.)3dys of cruel words,cold shoulder,&LONELINESS.I Don't Deserve this treatment.I feel like he's mind-f'ing me now-where I'm questioning my own actions! WHAT DO I DO?! HOW DO I GET HIM TO RECOGNIZE WHAT HE'S DOING?!? WHAT CAN I DO TO CHANGE THIS SITUATION? I don't want to stay in this relationship-BUT-i have no choice,I have nowhere to g

让他发疯的都是些微不足道的小事。例如，昨晚他开始大喊大叫和辱骂，因为我忘记了我几分钟前抽过烟，而我正在向他要烟。我不记得抽过烟——我没有抽过烟的味道，手上也没有烟的味道。我从不中途停下来抽烟。我从来没有。说到我做事的方式，我很挑剔/我是个完美主义者——我做的每件事都是有顺序的。我从不偷工减料或另辟蹊径。我从来没有在工作中途停下来抽烟休息过。他认为是我干的——其实我心里有数!4sake of argument I said I must have forgot.My forgetfulness was reason enough for 3days (Inc.this a.m.)for his cruelty.I Don't Deserve this treatment.I feel like he's mind-f'ing me now-where I'm questioning my own actions! WHAT DO I DO?! HOW DO I GET HIM TO RECOGNIZE WHAT HE'S DOING?!? WHAT CAN I DO TO CHANGE THIS SITUATION? I don't want to stay in this relationship-BUT-i have no choice,I have. nowhere to g

我现在正处于一段被虐待的关系中，我真的被困住了。我破产了，失业了，无处可去!如果我举报他/报警，害怕报复，害怕他的孪生兄弟——这就是我不能诉诸法律的原因。上次我威胁要叫警察，他把我的上牙连根都打掉了。我很惭愧。我曾经很漂亮。现在我36岁了，牙齿掉光了，看起来丑死了。我不再和家人联系了，因为我缺牙了/为我的长相感到羞耻，为我没有牙齿的原因感到羞耻。更糟糕的是，在公共场合，人们对待我/看不起我，因为人们会自动认为我没有牙齿，因为我是一个罪犯或沉迷于上帝知道他们把我钉在哪里!我很沮丧。 the daily insults and the literal cold mean demeaning attitude towards me is too much for me to handle anymore! I feel the verbal is worse than the physical abuse. what baffles me is how he doesn’t see/acknowledge/ or realize what he does or says is wrong! Anything sets him off! I’m at fault! I’m the stupid bitch, cunt, etc etc…that started him yelling.
让他发疯的都是些微不足道的小事。例如，昨晚他开始大喊大叫和骂人，因为我忘记了我几分钟前抽过烟，而我正在向他要烟。我不记得抽过烟——我没有抽过烟的味道，手上也没有烟的味道。我从不中途停下来抽烟。我从来没有。说到我做事的方式，我很挑剔/我是个完美主义者——我做的每件事都是有顺序的。我从不偷工减料或另辟蹊径。

哇!谢谢大家分享你的故事。他们证实了我的感受，并让我放心，我不是一个想结束这段关系的坏人。
我大约两年前遇到了我的伴侣。我们住在不同的城市，在结婚前约会了7个月。我看到了所有不好的迹象，试图推开他，但他太执着了。我有一个朋友的婚姻受到了虐待，她警告我不要嫁给他，但像许多女人一样，我想如果我向他展示足够的爱，他会成为理想的丈夫。
虐待我的人也是个瘾君子，但他假装见到我就戒掉了一切。我现在知道他没有。婚前他只叫过我一次婊子，而且他喝醉了。一开始我告诉他，一切都结束了，但后来他道歉了，我原谅了他。大错误!直到婚后，他才再这样做过。结婚一个月后，他就开始言语暴力。他骂我，骂我父母，骂我全家。
虐待我的人把我和朋友，甚至亲戚，女性亲戚隔离开来!!我的亲戚和她丈夫分开了，我不被允许和她交往，因为单身女性会严重影响我。我同意他的所有要求，认为我们会达到一个他会满意的地步，我们会相处得很好。但事情变得更糟了。
隔离之后，他开始控制我的穿着。他为了香水和化妆品跟我吵了一架，最后我上班不穿这个了。但这还不够，他想控制我的财务。我怀孕了，他从来没有同情过我。他说我在利用我的怀孕，我的荷尔蒙让我失去理智。我第一次离开他的时候已经怀孕8个月了。
我不得不在一个收容所住了大约两周，然后我去了我兄弟家(在另一个城市)，开始休假。起初我离开的时候，他答应我把一切都做好，这样我就会回来。但我的家人劝我不要这么做。所以我住在哥哥家，临产那天给他打了电话。他没有把我们的分歧放在一边支持我，而是在我给他打电话的时候开始骂我。
最后他来看孩子，哭个不停。女儿两个月大的时候我又去找他了。一切又开始了。更糟糕的是，这次他没有隐瞒他在吸大麻。他一直骂我，把我推来推去，把东西扔来扔去等等。
我三周前离开了他，但不打算永远离开。我只是来我的家乡放松两周，但我经历了精神上的解脱离开他只是让我决定结束它。昨天我去他家拿我所有的东西，我把他的钥匙落在了这里。
我不得不独自抚养我的女儿，这很可怕，但我知道她总比生活在不断的尖叫中要好。如果他想的话，我无意阻止他见他女儿，但我需要一些建议。
我应该担心他会伤害她吗??
在我和女儿住在那里的3.5个月里，他对她很好。即使我在这里，他也一直在问她的事，还想要她的照片。我相信他爱她，会保护她。但是，如果我让他见她，他的辱骂会指向她吗?
我只是想让我女儿幸福，我不想破坏她和她父亲的关系。但我也需要知道鼓励这种联系是否对我的孩子有益而无害。
我也开了一个博客来讲述我的故事，请访问http://blesseddec2012.wordpress.com/如果你想读的话。谢谢

我辱骂我的丈夫刚刚离开了我。我们在一起已经42年了
从一开始，他就贬低我的思想和感情，叫我的每一个名字，他靠我的经济生活，主要抱怨我的态度是所有烦恼的原因，我的家人对我所有的朋友和家人都只有负面的评论，他不止一次地吓到我，发脾气，破坏我工作的家，无休止地说他对我说的可恨的话。不知何故都是我的错&我是第一个有问题的人。我还是傻到想他