哪些迹象表明辱骂你的人是个自恋狂?

爱死这些东西了。我只是想补充一点，作为一个神使/超能力者，我在30多岁的时候才意识到我有能力去感受、持有、承担和吸引。我们不自恋的角色是关键。当我们突然灵光一闪‘嘿，为什么我吸引了这些人?”
或者对我来说，那时候更多的是自我保护。我不得不改变我的想法，他们试图利用我的同理心，我如何改变我的界限，与高质量的人保持积极的关系?还有，为什么我需要帮助或修理?有时候，就像你写的那样，当一个有毒的人卷入其中时，最好是切断诱饵，跑掉。
都好了。

凯利，谢谢你的博客。正是像我这样的人，在深夜、清晨或任何时候上网搜索时，迫切需要阅读这些文章，只是为了寻求答案，或者知道我们并不孤单或疯狂。当你意识到你已经和他结婚18年了，并且和他一起生活，你的女儿们现在也在说类似的话时——你说什么都不重要，除非这是他想听的或者他想要的，否则都不重要。如果他生气了，你只需要说“好”，以避免他更生气，只是让它停止。他会说，我不想再听你说这些，那些我都不感兴趣，你相信什么对我来说都不重要等等。我的孩子们说，当他对他们大喊大叫时，如果他们坚持自己，他会告诉他们为什么他们做了某事，或者他们的感受(就像我发生的那样)，但在他平静下来后，他会去告诉他们，他喜欢他们为自己挺身而出的方式。我有一个女儿，她的治疗师说，由于压力和不切实际的期望，她生活在有毒的压力中。我生活在一个完全该死的现实中，是时候醒过来，保护我孩子的安全了。当我问他我能做些什么来帮助他们，当他对他们大喊大叫时，他们说不，这只会让你的情况更糟，最终对他们来说，我感觉我无法呼吸。我的问题是你怎么处理这件事告诉他们? I never want their to be any reason for him to say that I manipulated the kids or there to be any question about it. I know that articles say you tell them together if you separate, but do you follow the same protocol with this type of situation? I want to free them of this constant stress and give them a safe place. It is a very difficult thing to face that this is who you are married to. I have read many, many articles and talked about the countless arguments, fights, etc with a therapist for years. You can't just bulldoze this info on your kids- even if they see the same stuff happening (although not nearly to the extent I have had happen)- it takes time to sink in and to be able to accept it. I experience all pieces of the wheel of abuse except physical. He is a master manipulator and he even tells me so. He says he can tell me what I think because he has known me for X years and has built up a lot of insight. He says he's more perceptive than anyone else he knows and he can and does have his opinion. I no longer worry about people believing me, I simply know I cannot and will not live this way any longer. And more importantly, I need to keep my kids safe. That's hard to write, especially because to everyone we know we appear to be this really together family.

嗨Emma-Marie !我只是想感谢你所有关于言语虐待的精彩博客。我正处在一段言语暴力的关系中，但虐待我的人是我母亲。我从小就有这种经历，现在我已经35岁了。我现在的情况迫使我搬回去和她一起住，因为我丈夫出轨了，离开了我和我们8岁的女儿。我们无处可去，我妈妈是唯一一个愿意收留我们的人，这样我才能重新振作起来。我真的相信她是个自恋狂。最近她被诊断出患有肺癌，情况变得更糟了。要从这样的创伤事件中重新站起来真的很难，就像我正在处理的事情一样，因为我丈夫的不忠，还经历了离婚。最重要的是，我每天都被一个应该支持和爱我的人辱骂，相反，这让我感觉更糟，无助和绝望，因为我现在无处可逃。 I feel trapped! I recently got a job and I’m saving up to get my daughter and myself out of this terrible situation, but I’m the meantime, I feel like I’m going crazy and made to feel like I’m a worthless piece of crap that no one could ever love. My self-esteem is ruined because of what my husband has done to me and the verbal abuse is not helping me to recover. So thank you again for posting these blogs and telling your story. It makes me feel like I’m not the crazy one. I can’t wait to read more and any advice you have for dealing with a verbally abusive narcissist in the meantime until I can get myself out of this situation would be greatly appreciated! Thank you so much!!

你尽快出去。

我是一个男人，我也在处理同样的事情，不一定非得是女人。我儿子被人欺负叫傻B!出于某种原因，或者如果她生气了，也会给女儿留下不好的名声。我们有两个孩子，儿子11岁，女儿4岁，从她女儿3岁起我就开始照顾她，她女儿现在15岁了，我很痛苦。她也这样对待她的女儿，我不希望我的孩子受到那种消极心态的影响。没有什么是完美的。房子可以在水槽里洗两个罐子，然后房子就脏了。我给我儿子熨上学穿的衣服，我不想让他穿那件愚蠢的衣服。感觉与家人、朋友和阻碍我的伟大的职业机会隔绝。我儿子已经准备好让我他和我女儿单独搬了因为那侮辱性的称呼。 She was the one that bumped into him one time at the mall and by accident he spilled a drink she smacked him hard in front of people in the cafeteria of the mall which is embarrassing and it was an accident. . Its more but I'll stop there. My kids are very intelligent and old enough to speak for themselves. I don't even like her anymore and her attitude. She's crazy to me and need help. Some people love the satisfactory of misery and hatred. My relatives don't even come visit anymore on the sake of keeping the peace but there's nothing you can do to please someone like that.