一个你想要做的言语虐待测试，只是为了确定

我父母虐待我!他们不是身体上的虐待，而是言语/情感上的虐待。有时他们会打我，勒死我，但不是一直都这样。主要是我妈妈，但我爸爸支持我妈妈，站在她那边。她对待我好像我不重要，好像我不是一个有感情和情绪的人。她总是贬低我，骂我是被宠坏的顽童、肥猪、忘恩负义的孩子等等。她还说，诸如“你是个刻薄的人，没有人想和你做朋友。”他们还会说这样的话:“我为你竭尽全力，而你却不尊重我。”顺便说一下，她没有为我做过任何事，她声称她希望我从未出生。大约一个月前，我被告知将把我送到警察局，然后留在那里，他们真的没有勇气这么做，但他们在考虑这件事。 That same night she told me if I wanted to leave the house, I was allowed to leave, so I left barefoot walking for about 2hrs before they finally found me. They went to my friend’s house thinking I went there first, I didn’t, but they showed up at her house smiling thinking this was a joke. I still have blisters on my feet and trauma from that night. I have so much trauma I can’t even stand it all. I have some triggers and they sometimes go off at school from what someone said or did etc., but it usually ends in me either having a panic attack and can’t breathe or me crying. It’s rough, I have at least 3-5 panic/anxiety attacks a day so it’s usual for me. This is my life, no all of it but a small bit. It‘s hard but I have no other way to deal with it.

我的父母很糟糕。我做了很多测试，看看他们是否有虐待行为，他们都说是的。他们打我的理由很蠢，比如我有太多衣服要洗。他们用木头和衣架打我的头、背、屁股、腿、手和胳膊。第二天，他们总是问我疼不疼，当我说疼的时候，他们又笑又笑。他们总是让我很尴尬，他们说如果我不为他们竭尽全力，他们就会告诉每个人关于我的故事。我两年前开始切割。我是自杀的。但我不想死。我只想离开这个家。 Everyone in my family knows that they hit me, kick me out of the house, and yell derogatory names at me, but they all ignore it. Even if they didn't know at first, a few years ago my dad hit me because he was upset that our printer wasn't working. He was the one who procrastinated and didn't print something for me until the night before I needed it. I didn't know how to use the printer so I needed his help and he got angry. He left bruises all over my legs. They could clearly see them and ignored them. They force me to join new activities and when I say I like them they make me quit. The only activities I do are ones I hate. They've planned my entire future with no consideration to what I want. If I stray from the path, they hit and yell at me. They make me think I'm useless. For years they've told me that I'm not good at anything. Anything that I accomplish, they take credit for. Anything I fail at they yell at me for. Whenever anything goes wrong they say it's my fault. They've always said that they're not my slaves, yet they make me theirs. Even when I'm sick they make me do stuff for them. They force me to go to school when I'm shaking and crying from how sick I feel. I think My mom just wants to compare me to my cousins and show her sister how much better she is. I'm not a show pony. They keep saying that I should be grateful to them for everything they've given up and done for me. I've been trying to please them for the last 15 years of my life, but nothing's ever good enough for them. This has been happening for as long as I can remember. My earliest memory was from when I was 5. It's the farthest back I can remember. I've never told anyone. I don't remember anything from before it. I thought that they would think I'm being dramatic or lying. I thought they wouldn't care. I've thought of killing myself. I've thought of telling people. I've thought of running away. I don't know what to do.

嗨，我叫米娅。我13岁了。我对上面6个问题都回答了肯定。我的父母很糟糕。我爸让我害怕，我妈是个虚伪的控制狂，我姐是个虐待狂她让我觉得自己无足轻重。我开始割伤自己，我想自杀。我这辈子都是这样，但今年开学后情况更糟了。
还有，我是泛性恋，我有女朋友。我知道我必须对我们的关系保密，因为我的父母明显是恐同者，而我在16岁之前不应该约会。我父母几天前发现了这件事，从那以后就一直折磨我，取笑我的“愚蠢行为”。他们想逼我和她分手，但我…不能。她是我的全部。她不知道，但她是我还在这里的原因。我绝对不可能和她分手。(对不起，我骂你了)
我的父母也不给我探索的自由。如果我交了一个新朋友，我妈妈必须知道他们的一切。除了学校，我不能去任何地方，我的父母从不愿意带我去学校以外的任何地方和朋友们出去玩。
如果你一直在看这篇文章，谢谢你。

我五年级的老师讨厌我，还有我的几个高中老师。我五年级的老师讨厌残疾学生，而我是身心残疾的残疾人。他说我又胖又懒，让我呆在学校而不是休息，让校长认为我做事，几乎让我挂了最好的一门课，让我看起来像个白痴。我的助手也没帮上忙，但我最好的朋友陪着我。初中还好，但高中不是一样差，几乎一样差，就是从大一到大三更糟。我的指导老师嫉妒我妹妹，所以把气撒在我身上，我的历史老师让我坐在左边，而我应该坐在右边，我没有助手，我的一个朋友开始欺负我，我被迫上了一门本不该上的课，而他们什么也没做。我唯一相处得好的人是我的数学老师，ELA老师，科学老师，美术老师和学校护士。我小学的护士和美术老师知道该怎么教我，我的数学老师和ELA老师都教残疾学生，所以我在那里过得很好，尽管我的咨询老师是残疾学生的老师，但她仍然对我很差，而我的科学老师很好。总是微笑着和我一起检查，看我在课堂上是否需要帮助。我右侧看不清东西，癫痫伴复杂部分癫痫发作，短期记忆，学习障碍，平衡问题和焦虑。 Almost none of my teachers believed I was having a seizure. 5th grade and freshman-junior. When I got to senior year I started going to a disabled school and was where I belong. I made friends, same room for every class, call teachers by their first name, no homework, the things I needed they had. Thanks to my ELA and science teachers I passed my MCAS for those two sophomore with ELA and junior with biology. I had to retake biology but I still got it and my math teacher said I was close to passing my math MCAS junior year. High school in my home town high school and 5th grade were the worst school years I’ve ever had.

嗯，这些都是正常的事情吗?我爸爸有严重的愤怒问题，每当我迟到的时候，我妈妈总会大喊大叫，我妈妈总会道歉，但我总是认为我爸爸是坏的那个人，所以我妈妈就动手了。我爸爸有时会用毛巾打我(他把毛巾当鞭子用)，但那只是为了好玩，对吧?我觉得随着我和我姐姐年龄的增长，情况变得越来越糟，他们的婚姻肯定会经历一些事情，所以没关系，对吧?当他们停止战斗，一切就会恢复正常，对吗?

我10岁，似乎如果我对他们说不，我就会被送走!我爸爸说，如果我和我的小妹妹吵架，或者真的不完美，我们的房间里就只有一个床垫!我爸爸认为，把我们的东西用掉会让我们成为“更好的倾听者”(我在用我奶奶的电脑)，但他不明白的是，现在我不能和大多数朋友说话，也不能用照片来回忆。他夺走了我们很多东西。现在我在家里只感到悲伤。有时他甚至因为我说了“我感觉不舒服”之类的话就对我大喊大叫，或者如果我晚上从房间里出来说“我的手指被门夹住了，真的很疼”，他会大喊大叫。这一切。

我大概12-14岁在中学，很长一段时间我认为一切都是我的错，我总是(现在仍然)认为我运气不好，我的父母不相信我，因为我是个骗子，他们把我变成了骗子。他们对我大喊大叫，我妈妈有时威胁要自杀或离开，这让我很害怕，每当我做了坏事，他们不会平静地告诉我这是错的，给我一个改正的机会，他们会对我大喊大叫。
他们还把我吓到了，我知道他们是否上楼了，如何假装睡觉，知道他们的睡眠范围(比如如果他们听不到我做某事，除非声音很大，或者他们仍然试图睡觉)，知道如何在不为人知的情况下偷东西。
我不喜欢接近他们，虽然互联网可能很残酷，但它是我唯一的逃避，如果你仔细想想，它并没有那么残酷。
我已经制定了一个完整的逃跑计划，我相信我有失眠症，因为我从来不能睡到凌晨3点或4点，他们也为我喜欢的事情感到羞耻，他们是同性恋，性别不固定。
我的爸爸妈妈拿走了我的ipad，让我感到孤独，因为我在课堂上说了我的观点，从9月开始就这样了(到写作时已经10月了)。我试过很多次自杀，但都没成功。
我们(我和我妹妹)不能使用社交媒体，所以我偷偷摸摸地使用我的社交媒体，这样我就感觉自由了，而且还要确保我不能在晚上8点以后玩电脑，现在晚上8点半以后不能看电视，未经允许不能给朋友打电话，没有自由……
他们吓到我，如果有人在附近大喊大叫，我会退缩，即使它是好玩的，如果我试着说对不起，他们就像“不，你不是!”等....如果我熬夜，因为我睡不着，他们会对我大喊大叫，如果其他人都结束了，他们会表现得很好，当客人走了或不在我现在的位置，他们会对我大喊大叫或安静地大喊大叫。他们会尽量靠近。
有时候，他们会把我的房间弄得一团糟，让我打扫干净，拿我的恐惧开玩笑，他们也不赞成我喜欢的一些东西，比如令人毛骨悚然的意大利面，scp等。我妈妈也有一两次叫我“失败”或“错误”。我妈妈无缘无故地让我去接受治疗，几个月后，责怪我“报名”了，因为我们有技术问题，“我必须在线去”。最近，我爸爸对我大喊大叫，因为一个朋友说“Wtf”，责怪我，对我大喊大叫，因为我不想对朋友无礼，问我能否和朋友一起玩几分钟游戏
我不知道他们是否虐待我，是吗?

大家好，我是Emma，我是一个16岁的女孩。我妹妹不停地打我，推我。她还一直侮辱我，让我想去死。我不知道该拿她怎么办。我该拿她怎么办?

嗨. .我是一个13岁的女孩，我一直在处理情感和言语上的虐待，这让我陷入了非常黑暗的境地，我认为如果我自杀了，对我周围的人都会更好。从很小的时候起，我的兄弟姐妹和父母就对我大喊大叫，因为我很喜欢社交，想和每个人一起出去玩，但有点难以相处。我的兄弟姐妹只是碰巧选择和其他同龄的孩子一起玩，他们讨厌我，包括一些亲戚。他们都把我当狗屎一样对待，但我并没有多想，直到七岁的时候，我对自己变得非常非常没有安全感。这可能跟我哥哥打我有关而我父母对此无动于衷。在那一刻，我无法相信身边的任何人，也不再与人交往。我觉得周围的人都恨我，我将孤独终老，这让我很害怕。8岁时，我开始表现出抑郁的症状，但我认为这是正常的，并把它隐藏起来。九岁的时候，我一直很受伤，但很容易隐藏起来，露出微笑。 Keeping all the emotions in me put a strain in my heart to the point where I looked up ways to kill myself. I had no clue what suicide was until I came across it on Wikipedia. At age ten I started having anxiety attacks and panic attacks, and that’s when I almost killed myself. Something was wrong, and I knew it, but was too afraid to even be myself around my family, let alone tell them what I was going through. I was embarrassed and tried making friends online just so they could backstab me. I felt so, so alone and my depression was at its worst. At eleven I experienced ED (bulimia, anorexia, binge-purge subtype) due to my father calling me fat. I also started cutting, and had already planned my suicide multiple of times, but was too weak to do so. I talked to hotlines, went to multiple of websites just to be told to “tell my parents”. Eventually, I did, but was told that it was my diet, puberty, or the stupid songs I was listening too (I had only told them about my depression and anxiety. Nothing else). They almost lost a daughter that night.
现在我被困在浴室里思考我是否应该把一切都抛在脑后因为我爸爸对我大吼大叫说我总是觉得他很蠢什么的他根本不在乎我是不是真的这么想，只要我闭上嘴就行。每个人都说我愚蠢，说我很难相处，很难爱，但他们永远不会理解做我有多难。把我当成没用的人，说我胖，总是被骂，这是虐待吗?我在家上学，没有人可以去，附近只有一个亲戚，但她会站在我父母那一边。我很迷茫，很害怕，很沮丧，但我是不是像他们说的那样夸张了?我应该处理它吗?

你好,
如果让我用一个词来形容我的父亲，那一定是头脑发热。我一直在想，我爸到底是虐待狂，还是我太敏感了。最糟糕的事情发生在一年前。我们当时正在争吵，突然我爸爸失控了，朝我冲过来。我跑回房间，锁上了门。他砰砰地敲着门说:“如果你不马上开门，我就砸了它!”然后他说，“当我进去的时候，你会感到疼痛!”显然，我没有打开它。但就在这时，我意识到有些事情不对劲。他有几次在公共场合对我大吼大叫，闹得沸沸扬扬。 Once it was in front of my xc team for not racing, and the other was at a restaurant (one week ago) because I was taking too long to order. He’s lost his temper with people outside of my family too. I think everyone just tries to forget about it, because he can still be nice. Please lmk if this is abuse or not!

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我14岁。我父亲从不相信我，我也从不相信他。当我每天都被我的食物噎住，告诉他有什么不对劲时，他很生气，告诉我这是我的脑袋出了问题，让我坐在一盘食物前，不让我吃一口就不让我离开。我咬了一口，假装咽下去，然后把它吐进了厕所。几周后，母亲发现我哭了，就带我去了医院，在那里我被诊断出患有自身免疫性疾病。诊断出来后，我不得不去找我爸爸道歉(他自己不会道歉)，他以一种非常冷漠的方式说对不起，就好像我太敏感了一样，耸耸肩。他责怪我在这段时间里不听我的话而产生了自杀倾向。我母亲后来被诊断出患有癌症，我们搬得离家人更近了。我父亲和我从来都不太合拍，但在她死后，他变得难以忍受了。一开始，他说在公共场合悲伤是不合适的，所以不允许我在我母亲的葬礼上哭。 After that we picked her a beautiful headstone, but a few weeks later he said we were picking out a new one. When I asked why he said it was because of money and we got her something that was ugly even for a headstone. Luckily, the guy who tried to sell it was a scammer so I got the one I wanted anyway. Then I got a boyfriend who is two years older than me and very kind. All the teacher's have nothing but nice things to say about him and he was extremely mature for his foolish classmates. My dad didn't want me to date period and especially not someone older than me and that was overprotective, but understandable until his mother told us he had high-functioning autism. My dad nodded and put on his respectable, understanding facade until we got home and he called him and his brothers trash. He later made a bunch of jokes with my aunt and uncle (who he told every last detail knowing they would agree with him) about how people with autism are (beg your pardon for language) "retarded" and how "his mother was obviously high-functioning too" because she was so stupid. I forced myself to laugh along with them, but I was dying on the inside. He found out I was still texting him and called me a "liar" and a "hypocrite" and said "You pull the wool over everyone's eyes but I see who you really are". I found ways to contact regularly regardless. Then I started seeing things. It got to the point where I couldn't tell the difference between my imagination and reality and I was always terrified. On top of this, despite the fact the doctors told my dad I had to be consistently screened to make sure my autoimmune disease didn't cause tissue scarring he canceled my appointment and I think he's canceled my appointments in the future for good because he still thinks it's just in my head despite me diagnosis. I told my dad the first day I was seeing things because it was so bad and so intense, but he told me "demons are attacking you" and "this is a reward from God" "Congratulations". I don't know what he meant by that. It's like my life is a sick game for him to play. Then when it kept happening and I finally worked up the courage to see my school Guidance Counselor, despite my pleads and warnings that I'd be punished, she called him right away. Everything was fun and calm when he took me home that day and for once I thought maybe he finally understood, but right before I went to sleep he told me I was selfish and only thought about myself and that I didn't care or watch out for the family that I didn't understand the value of family. He got me a therapist so he could tell the school he took me to one and then canceled all further appointments without telling the school. He said that God was punishing me for my lies and he wasn't going to waste his time and money. I've been scared to read the Bible ever since. Then a few days later on my dead mother's birthday right after we had visited her grave he took away my phone saying I needed to learn the importance of family. A few days after that he also took away my internet privileges. I had to trick him in order to get on here and write this. The guidance counselor asked me how things had went and when I told her they went badly she just shrugged and said she was sorry she had gotten me in trouble and didn't take any further action. I have told a teacher from my old school since and we are meeting up for lunch tomorrow to further discuss what actions are going to be taken. It looks like social services are going to get involved. I am very scared but glad I have taken this step, but the confirmation that I am indeed being emotionally abused would put me at much ease.

首先，我今年13岁，上八年级。我的母亲一直是那种对任何事情都生气的人，但从去年开始，我觉得情况变得更糟了。我母亲总是拿我和她在初中/高中时的成绩做比较，告诉我她的成绩从来没有低于C，她是一个多么好的学生。七年级的时候，我从来没有告诉过我妈妈任何事情，因为每次我告诉她一些事情，她都会记住，然后告诉她的朋友一个完全不同于我告诉她的故事，而且总是让我看起来像个坏人。她总是拖累我。当我买了一套新衣服，如果我第二天不穿，她会生我的气，因为如果我不穿，她会认为我忘恩负义，或者如果我穿了一套符合我风格的衣服，她会奇怪地看着我，默默地评判我。我妈妈用不同的名字称呼我，这让我很难过。(对不起我的语言)她叫我自私，笨蛋，懒惰，被宠坏，忘恩负义，exc，她不知道这伤我有多深。我记得有一次我勇敢地站起来，因为她对我大喊大叫，那一刻我崩溃了，她甚至不在乎，所以我告诉她停止，她给我带来了多大的压力。她继续对我大喊大叫，然后告诉我，因为我认为她给我太多压力了，所以我最好不要费心向她要任何东西，她再也不会给我买任何东西了。 One thing that really freaking hurts is when she calls me selfish saying how I don't care about anyone but myself. There were times I saw her stressed out and I decided to help her around the house whether it would be cleaning the kitchen or maybe vacuuming the floor exc. This one really mean girl at my school who always talks bad about me was crying in the bathroom and I actually made sure she was feeling okay. I remember so many times when she said to my face how she didn't care if I was upset about something she said to me. That hurt because during those moments I had to sit in my room, crying silently with no one to comfort me, alone and those days were one of the worst. I had a boyfriend and I became so freaking clingy because he made me really happy and so I didn't really worry about what was going on at home which made him distance himself from me since he couldn't really hang out much with his friends without me being there. We broke up for reasons and so I just became more sad. I'm starting to wake up everyday just feeling sad and unmotivated.. Maybe my mom is just being a regular parent but do you consider this as emotional abuse? She does say sorry after some of these things happen, telling me that she was just stressed but I don't know..

首先，我今年13岁，上八年级。我的母亲一直是那种对任何事情都生气的人，但从去年开始，我觉得情况变得更糟了。我母亲总是拿我和她在初中/高中时的成绩做比较，告诉我她的成绩从来没有低于C，她是一个多么好的学生。七年级的时候，我从来没有告诉过我妈妈任何事情，因为每次我告诉她一些事情，她都会记住，然后告诉她的朋友一个完全不同于我告诉她的故事，而且总是让我看起来像个坏人。她总是拖累我。当我买了一套新衣服，如果我第二天不穿，她会生我的气，因为如果我不穿，她会认为我忘恩负义，或者如果我穿了一套符合我风格的衣服，她会奇怪地看着我，默默地评判我。我妈妈用不同的名字称呼我，这让我很难过。(对不起我的语言)她叫我自私，笨蛋，懒惰，被宠坏，忘恩负义，exc，她不知道这伤我有多深。我记得有一次我勇敢地站起来，因为她对我大喊大叫，那一刻我崩溃了，她甚至不在乎，所以我告诉她停止，她给我带来了多大的压力。她继续对我大喊大叫，然后告诉我，因为我认为她给我太多压力了，所以我最好不要费心向她要任何东西，她再也不会给我买任何东西了。 One thing that really freaking hurts is when she calls me selfish saying how I don't care about anyone but myself. There were times I saw her stressed out and I decided to help her around the house whether it would be cleaning the kitchen or maybe vacuuming the floor exc. This one really mean girl at my school who always talks bad about me was crying in the bathroom and I actually made sure she was feeling okay. I remember so many times when she said to my face how she didn't care if I was upset about something she said to me. That hurt because during those moments I had to sit in my room, crying silently with no one to comfort me, alone and those days were one of the worst. I had a boyfriend and I became so freaking clingy because he made me really happy and so I didn't really worry about what was going on at home which made him distance himself from me since he couldn't really hang out much with his friends without me being there. We broke up for reasons and so I just became more sad. I'm starting to wake up everyday just feeling sad and unmotivated.. Maybe my mom is just being a regular parent but do you consider this as emotional abuse? She does say sorry after some of these things happen, telling me that she was just stressed but I don't know..

我今年10岁，从18个月大开始就一直在做体操。一开始我只是上妈妈和我的课，但在二年级的时候我进入了一个有竞争力的团队，一开始我有一个最好的教练，但在三年级的时候我有了一个新教练。一开始他真的很好，但他知道他在质疑我是否想要从事体操事业，总是对我大喊大叫，让我哭。这是言语虐待吗?

直到今天我才知道这些事情，每次父母回家我都很害怕，他们有时会在争吵中威胁要打我(但他们不再这样做了)，他们把我和我哥哥比较，说他比我高，比我强壮，但我知道他们已经威胁要在放学后或在商店叫我懒、笨等名字，让我难堪……一旦我某门课得了C，我就是个失败者，我告诉他们关于我的梦想,成为韩国流行文化所明星,他们说他们不想听但我仍然继续努力达到完美在他们眼中我至少可以试镜,老实说当他们生气毫无理由证明这是我不是一个成年人(im 13顺便说一句)当我叔叔看到,问我发生了什么,我认为这是好的,因为它是圣诞节但它不是就像每隔一天,他们想知道为什么我像一个无生命的机器人其一个周期论证他们怪我假,“哦”让我们通过这个结果,当不工作他们威胁我最终分解和睡眠一天因为我可以梦想会是什么感觉在韩国流行文化所追求事业和我睡觉时训练,如果成功我会搬出去,是免费的,然后我的噩梦,我被淹死了,但我不想和任何人说话,因为我不想看起来像我抱怨或者哭声点我所做的任何事都不会让我唱歌跳舞为你小时我有最好的成绩和我的家人去看我最好的和im“瘦”,我想是完美的,因为他们不会接受任何少他们说他们不该expevt我但第二个我做一个诚实的错误,所有的地狱冻结在idc如果他们发现这和阅读时他们会通过我的电话我不同情它踢我出了房子,然后我会活下去。有趣的是，我不知道那是什么

我爸对我妈很好，但他们结婚后他就开始易怒了。我第一次注意到他对我妈妈大喊大叫把所有可能发生的事都怪在她头上持续了整整40分钟。我们甚至听到他敲墙和推东西。我不得不说:他没有伤害我妈妈，但我们都害怕他会伤害我妈妈。他看到我妈妈在哭，更生气了，就更大声地喊叫。我和兄弟姐妹都在里面哭着祈祷她没事。我往窗外看了看，我妈妈哭了，她太害怕了，不敢保护自己。当我爸爸讲完后，他走进房子，看到我站在门口，说:“你刚才在听，是吗?”我没有马上回答，所以他很生气，重复了一遍，直到我说“是”。然后他离开了房子，没有告诉我们他要去哪里，几个小时后又回来了。 He never apologized when he came back. He acted like everything was fine, but he ignored us. That was when I was like 8 years old, and it is the worst it has gotten, but he yells all the time now and I can't defend myself when he yells at me because I know that he will just get worse and I get scared. I even have to hold back tears a lot. I am older now and I want this to stop, but since I am not much older there is nothing I can do except be there for my family. I feel like he doesn't even care for us when he yells. I have never told anyone this, and this is only part of what he is like, but I was wondering if this counts as verbal abuse? Can someone please reply? I would really appreciate it if someone could tell me if it is abuse or not. Thank you.

嘿，我17岁了。我13岁的时候就被人辱骂过。最糟糕的是，我妈妈说:“你妈妈总有一天会因为你而死。”她说这些话时非常激烈，我哭了很多次，因为我感到很内疚。
但现在，我17岁了，情况好多了。不要误会我，我相信我妈妈非常爱我。我也非常爱她。我想她用内疚来控制我上次的叛逆我不确定。
现在的情况肯定更好。
但现在，每天她都会说好几遍“我好恨你”，“有没有人告诉过你他们有多恨你”，或者“如果我有机会，我会再生一个女儿”。但问题是，她是用一种开玩笑的方式说这些事情的，不像过去。也许我太敏感了，因为这会勾起我过去的回忆。有时当我们在公共场合，她对我说:“我不能这么大声说话，否则人们会说我辱骂你。”我认为她不知道这给我带来了多少痛苦，所以不会把言语虐待(如果是的话)当回事。我知道最明显的解决办法就是和她谈谈，告诉她我很痛苦。但我怎么能??因为我的过去，我现在真的很警惕，我讨厌脆弱。即使她开玩笑地说，这仍然被认为是言语虐待吗?如果是的话，谁能给我提点建议?

我妈跟我说她的孩子不听话都是我的错还说我听信魔鬼的话。我是个基督徒，一直都是。我不怀疑她爱我们，但当她愤怒发作时，她会爬到我身上，让我崩溃，这让我以前差点自杀。当她生气的时候，她指责我听信魔鬼的话，让她看起来像个坏人。但当她不生气的时候，她说她需要我，因为我能听到上帝的声音。她指责我是一个荡妇，有一个甜爹(这些指控都不是真的)，她曾经多次让我质疑我的救赎，因为她总是告诉我上帝站在她这一边。每当我听到砰的一声关门，我就跳起来，变得非常焦虑。我总是能读懂她的情绪和微表情。
但我很困惑。她总是说她想给我们最好的，她爱我们，总是告诉我们她为我们放弃了多少。
我是被虐待了还是我太敏感了?还是我真的是个坏人?

嗨我'm13。Idk如果这是滥用但我会从头开始去我还是个孩子的时候我爸爸来抽我,我妈不会她就给我超时,我爱她,她是有趣的妈妈所有的时间我可以答应了问题# 2我总是试图开始远离那些让我爸爸疯了一个学习习惯我爸爸不打我了但他的愤怒问题所以我试着不让他生气,但是我爱我的爸爸我说爱这个词有困难这是有点困难的。8岁的时候我的祖母过去了我妈妈改变了有趣的妈妈她会说她不再对我喜欢的事情完全是一个虚拟的或你的所以不成熟或不成熟有时为什么你不能像我一样等这种疼痛,但现在我习惯了我的祖母死后不久我开始严重恐慌他们离开,但现在我失眠时,我妈妈总是忘记告诉她一些重要的事情一旦她推我不穿她打我想让我穿我头疼了整整一个星期我想我有轻微的脑震荡,但我不是专家我的头撞到金属框架的床上我不想去学校因为它伤害和她更加愤怒,叫我不成熟但我住不管怎样但仍然去学校第二天自从我退缩当她触摸我,但她从来没有注意到她甚至不记得她是我引发的恐慌症有时如果我得到电影或阅读一些关于it she slaps my younger siblings now I can tell their hurting so I try not to let them get in trouble I think I have depression when I was 10 I started taking sneaky sips of beer and stuff and then it became a problem and I started drinking bottles of it then I started cutting my arms whenever I made my mom disappointed and then I would drink more and more I got caught tho for my drinking they stopped me but that was it they don’t know that I still drink sometimes. they don’t know about the cutting tho. My dad sometimes say things about me being dumb for some stuff in school but he still scares me I don’t like making him angry. but for some reason I like to make my mom angry she says she’ll kill me every time I make her blow and for some reason I want her too One time I was crying because my moms aid something about me and my dad told me to quite pouting I don’t cry in front of anyone or even at all i know this is bad but it’s what I believe I thank my mom usually I think I’m immature myself crying is bad to me it makes me feel like a bay so I don’t let myself cry I try not to tell my parents if I deal sick or how I’m feeling because my mom would tell me to stop complaining and being pathetic so now I don’t hugs make me uncomfortable but i like them if their not from my parents I don’t really care about life or school or anything but I have anger issues for sure when someone makes me angry and I see a weapon or knife I feel like it would be so easy just grab the knife use it kill them it will be better that way and I know this is bad rlly bad so I use it on myself instead and no one notices I think I might have some brain trauma because I can’t remember my grandmother I remember what she did but all I see is a body with no face I can’t remember her and she died only 5 yrs ago and I can remember things way before that I sorry about talking this much I’ve never told anyone this and I have a lot more things to say I guess this is what happens when you bottle things up sorry

我父亲一直是个固执己见的人。他总是很挑剔，是那种无论如何都要求自己是对的人。从小到大，我从来没有和他真正相处过。我总是在某种程度上害怕他。每天他回家上班，我总是很害怕，希望他心情很好，因为如果他不是我和我的兄弟姐妹，谁会听到。现在我开始注意到他所做的不是一个正常的父亲所做的。就在前几天，我躺在沙发上，拿着手机看电视节目。我不想要求看真正的电视节目因为他和我妈妈。他突然开始对我大喊大叫，说我是他见过的最懒的人，说我什么都不做。我让自己变得一文不值。 I’d like to point out that I am only in highschool. I cannot drive anywhere, I cannot get a job yet. I am practically only living for school. He kept telling me that I never leave the house and how I don’t do anything with my spare time. He than began telling me how I owe him because he put so much effort and money into raising me. As if I asked to be born. No ever ask to be born. All I kept saying was I’m sorry because I was too afriad to say anything else he’d get mad at. He then yelled at me for being apologetic. I didn’t answer those question with the results that state verbal abuse, but If that’s not verbal abuse. I don’t know what it is because to me it isn’t love.

我妈妈和我吵了一架，我妹妹正好在那里。她总是维护我母亲，即使她是对的或错的。所以我最终知道我将会失去理智，变得愤怒。所以我和我姐姐之间的冲突变得很激烈，所以我冲到她的脸上，简单地撞了一下胸口，没有什么极端的动作，像是一拳或一脚，只是撞了一下胸口。然后我的母亲抓住我的脖子两边，当时我穿着一件连帽衫，连帽衫是戴着的，她紧紧地捏着我，对我大喊大叫，把我的脸拉到她的脸上。她的眼睛锐利而你的声音浑浊。我跑回房间，哭了，给朋友打电话，我真的不想结束这一切，但我妈妈和我谈过了。她只是把我的回答当耳边风，然后用一些深奥的或者跑题的东西填进去。我很沮丧，我不知道我是不是被虐待了。我妈以前在很多场合抓过我的脖子后面，但她从来没有抓过我的脖子两边。 Please help me find out what is wrong.

我相信我是言语虐待的受害者，但我仍然很困惑。当我累得拖着脚走路时，有人告诉我要像个男人一样走路。在她生气的时候，我还被告知“吃了它”。当我生病时，她告诉我“对病人过敏”。有人能解释一下吗?

我不知道这是不是虐待，但是，我妈妈因为我爱我爸爸而贬低我，让我感觉很糟糕。如果我为我父亲辩护，她就会对我大喊大叫，说:“你当然是在为他辩护，他是在虐待你。”他不是。她会冲我尖叫，说些刻薄的话。

在我小的时候，我父母经常吵架，我爸会摔东西，冲我妈大喊大叫，我妈也会这样。我曾亲眼目睹我爸把我妈打得半死，但她去了医院还撒谎，说她从酒吧回家的路上被人打了。我母亲疏忽大意，把我刚出生的小妹妹一个人留在黑暗的房间里，哭到无法呼吸。她经常喝醉，从不送我和妹妹们去学校。我爸通常都出差了，但他一回家，就会喝得酩酊大醉，和我妈一起抽大麻，然后他们就开始吵架。我不记得哪天我没有在半夜醒来，紧张地听父母是否在吵架。我六岁的时候，我哥哥开始调戏我，他向我保证，如果我让他碰我的话。我不知道，我当时只是个孩子。他一直干到我九岁。我父母以前抓住过他，因为他摸我的小妹妹，但他说他会停止，他们让他留下来。 Then they found out that he was still doing it to me, and they kicked him out. But they never told the police, and they never got me the help I deserve, but I'm too scared to tell people face to face. Hell, to this day I see him sometimes, my father pretends it never happened. Then, my mom left my dad after having an affair. She left my sisters and I, and she never showed up to the custody hearing, so we were left with my father. Everything was okay at first. My dad wasn't drinking, or smoking weed. I thought everything was okay, and then he started drinking again, and since my mom wasn't here, he began to fight with me. He still does to this day. He says that I'm a disappointment and that he doesn't love me, he tells me I'm a whore and mentally ill like my mother. Once, he had been drinking and had fallen asleep, and in his sleep he had knocked over a cup of water. He got up, blamed me for doing it, and when I told him he was being ridiculous, he grabbed me forcefully and threw me to the floor in my bedroom, and then slammed the door shut. In another separate incident, he punched a hole in my bedroom door in a fit of rage. His ex girlfriend who had seen the whole thing had called CPS on him, and I lied to them, because I'm scared of getting him in trouble. He always tells me that I'm ungrateful and that he breaks his back working to put a roof over my head. Even when he's not drunk, he doesn't take me seriously and gets angry at me. I feel like a coward, because just tonight, he made my little sister cry, but I was too scared to confront him because last time I did he had gotten extremely angry at me and I had to leave the hose and stand in the cold for nearly two hours until he calmed down. Another time, he bothered my other youngest sister in the middle of the night, and was yelling at her, and I got up and told him to stop because it was the middle of the night, he said that the phones were corrupting us and that all we do is use them, so he took them and smashed them. I don't know what to do. I've never been diagnosed with anxiety or depression because my father refuses to get me diagnosed, because he tells me that being medicated is horrible. He won't get me therapy despite how much I ask him. I'm lost, I'm too scared to confront an adult. I know what he's doing is wrong, but I can't bring myself to tell others because in some sick twisted way I love him, I'm scared of what will happen if I tell on him. Maybe in some convoluted way I think it's my fault or that I deserve it. I honestly have no idea what to do.

我妈妈总是因为最愚蠢的事情对我大喊大叫，有时甚至用贬义的名字称呼我。我试着跟她谈过，但她从来不让我说完，因为她认为她为了我有更好的生活“牺牲”了这么多。我觉得这只是个借口，所以我还是闭嘴吧。此外，她总是说我不能告诉任何人在家里发生的事情(大喊大叫)，因为在家里发生的事情是私人事务，但当我犯了某些错误时，她不会忘记告诉她的朋友和家人，我感到不受尊重。

我还不确定。我的母亲并不总是那么刻薄，但有时她会无缘无故地生气，用这种尖酸刻薄的声音，当我试图道歉时，她会微笑。这种情况每周至少发生一次。她发火了，对我说了她能想到的最刻薄的话。我不知道这算不算虐待。即使我知道，我也不知道我会怎么做，因为另一半时间她很好，很有爱。这让我很困惑，我不知道该怎么办了

我发现很难和我的养母讨论这个话题，她虐待我，而且完全不知道。我必须看着自己，小心翼翼，它会影响到你，进入你的大脑，像那样行事，感觉无力改变剧本。施虐者，被虐待等等。在控制和操纵中深种的根有时就像用黄油刀切割电线。我想黄油刀可以磨得足够锋利来切断电线吧?

当我的室友在我想看的电视节目中不住嘴时，我就发火了。

我哥哥知道我讨厌他说的话和做的事，他总爱把我逼疯。他每天都这样，这让我抓狂，但我不知道如何阻止他。每当他说对不起的时候，只要妈妈和/或爸爸还在，他就会一直对不起，然后他就会抱怨，重新开始。我只想让他停下来!

好吧，我妈妈说她相信我，我有男朋友，她不相信我，不能自己做décisions。她让我哭了，因为她一直说他不够好，说他把我推开之类的话。我告诉她他不是那样的，她只是告诉我她经历过这些，她不想让我经历这些。她一直都这样。她认为他不适合我我爱他他爱我,我14岁,我知道我在做什么我知道她是好意,但我的男朋友对我好,我希望她只是听我所有我觉得受到伤害,只是希望她能接受我感觉更好和他约我想跟他在一起幸福快乐,我和他已经有一年了,我只是厌倦了我妈妈和别人告诉我他不够好

我妈妈总是告诉我要完美。从我七八岁开始，她就一直让我节食，就因为我不适合她理想的生活。她总是试图用食物之类的东西来贿赂我(我从不接受)，甚至当我礼貌地请她杀死一只蜘蛛时，因为我真的很害怕它们，她告诉我，我必须清理她弄脏的东西。她甚至带我去诊所，看看我是否有饮食失调症。我爸爸(他们离婚了)让她带我去看心理医生，但她说这不是那种问题。在他们说我没什么问题之后，她突然开始说我需要一个心理医生。那是一年前的事了，我现在还没有。我不知道她怎么了，但我觉得她控制欲很强。

我13岁，我想知道，当我被吼到多次试图逃跑，并让我相信我让生活变得困难时，这是否是一种虐待。过去几年我和父母相处得很艰难。他们威胁要打我，还让我难堪，不能保守秘密。他们也不把我当回事，最近我爸爸摸了我，这让我不舒服，我不知道这是不是虐待，不过他摸了我的大腿和下背部。很长一段时间，这让我很害怕。我真的很害怕，难过，困惑。我以前几乎被逼到崩溃的边缘，我不知道该怎么办。