被困在一个虐待关系吗?
人们被困在一个虐待关系听的,“你真比这做得更好!为什么你住?”我知道我比我的经验。我知道我不应该被这样对待。然而,当有人指出,对我来说,我想挖我的高跟鞋和战斗留下来。
我知道我比他如何对我好,但我认为我的施虐者也比他如何表现一个更好的人。我看到我们同样伤害。我想我们都被困在一个虐待关系。
我以为我们这两个被困在虐待关系
我想他一定非常痛苦在这些方面能够伤害我,对我说这些事情,假装是他说,用他的手来支持他的话。我以为他和我都在疼痛。
我应该得到更好的待遇,但他和我是一样的。他应得的机会找到幸福。他应得的爱,善良,尊重,…真爱。他应得的我的爱(尽管给我不尊重和恨)因为我们是一样的。
当有人告诉我,我是比他好,我畏缩了像一个引人注目的蛇。的逻辑是毫无意义的。我怎么可能比我等于什么?他们鼓励我的人离开我的施虐者,成了我的敌人。
伟大的事情我开始讲述我的施虐者到我的新敌人,优先考虑更好的记忆从我们的蜜月期。我加强了自己为什么我呆我试图说服我的敌人一样。我的逻辑是我敌人的不一样。我所做的我完全可以理解。放弃他对我意味着放弃。
我是一个很好的人被困在一个虐待关系
我是忠诚,爱,愿意坚强通过艰难的斑点。我可以看到过去的坏我的施虐者的善良。我不仅会生存下来,但把他拉上来从他的内部的恨。我欠他,因为我答应他,我永远不会离开他。我答应爱,荣誉,和珍惜;不使用、逃跑和嘲笑。
我的忠诚和信仰,他和我是=(的影响洗脑让我困在我们的虐待关系。我留下来,因为我觉得离开表示的背叛我是谁。在很多方面我施虐者已经背叛了我。我不想背叛我自己,所以我仍然忠于他。囿于我是谁尽可能多的他对我做了什么,我仍然被困在近二十年的虐待关系。
我没听到当困在我的虐待关系
好像,在我结婚的时候,我从我的家人和朋友说一种不同的语言。当他们告诉我,我应该得到更好的方法,并给出了一个办法,我没有听到他们想让我所听到的。我听到“我不认识你了。你是一个烂摊子。你需要帮助。你做错了。有了你。”
我保证这不是他们的意思。但我自己说照片相同的善意的话语到今天的家庭暴力的受害者。我想让他们知道我在看什么。但我不会说他们的语言。我是他们的敌人。
APA的参考
乔,k(2012年3月23日)。被困在一个虐待关系吗?,HealthyPlace。检索2023年5月7日,从//www.5wetown.com/blogs/verbalabuseinrelationships/2012/03/trapped-in-an-abusive-relationship
作者:凯莉乔冬青
嗨Keniada,
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我希望你爱和运气——简
嗨。我已经从我的父母在我青少年心理上精神上辱骂和现在。我被麻醉后敲在夜间俱乐部,我醒来在我公寓水泥。我是在一个虐待关系当我19岁的迹象。我回家和我妈妈言语上的侮辱,我把一整瓶percocept上班紧张性精神症的他们发现我昏倒在浴室。我现在在另一个口头精神情感虐待的婚姻。我没有家人或帮助我很恶心了16个月的痛苦。当我19岁的时候我被绑架,被迫让性视频和强奸如果我离开,他说他会杀了我。我最后的丈夫虐待的方式和他离婚3年cpo。我也一直在大量的虐待关系。 My parents won't help they kicked me out for no reason I'm their only daughter. I need help I live in Tennesse is their ways to get help? God bless you. If u are in a marriage witg a non beleiver the Bible says if your in good company stay married if your in bad company leave. I am a firm believer if u are being abused and they won't change leave, the bible says so. I cry I have had panic attacks for 5 months since I have been here. He threatens to kick me out when he doesn't get what he wants. We got in a bad fight and he was going to call the cops I did nothing wrong I got in my car and fled and then he said he was going to kill himself. He shot the gun I was terrified . Went outside he didn't do it. His family sides with him . I'm alone sick no money no family. He is 46 he yells at his mom, who gives him lunch money washes his clothes lays them out, and gives him his meds. Likes is food perfect. And the icing on the cake his mom cut his steak for him for his lunch! I'm so sick I need help with showers and driving. He has problems, hes going to counseling to satisfy me. No go for yourself. I am a devout Godly woman, if I did not have Jesus, I will loose it. For the last 5 months I told him to stop or I will be in the hospital. I started cutting at 15 on lists, then my First husband I took a box cutter and cut my arms and legs. I tried to commit suicide 10 times. This man I married on FaceTime he seemed layed back and kind and loved Jesus, he's not even saved he lied. We stay with his family. He was married and lived next door for 6 years she left in the nite why? And one year on his own so he has lived away from parents for 7 years he's 46. I had to work and have an apt, my parents helped some but never their when you need them. We started to go to church I found one he was jelous cause I praised Jesus and sacrificed a praise , he says why don't u sacrifice for me. I'm Gods child annoited through my praise 5 people gave a testimony how I blesses them and how to get out of religiosity. I was humbled it was Jesus, the glory goes to God. God bless and thank u. If anyone knows of help or how I could obtain money. God bless
嗨,每个人,
我都惊讶&很惊讶有这么多。我感觉的你& sircumstances。唯一的建议....和我自己在紧张的情况下,所以折扣我说什么。但在与这些麻烦的关系。要求改变,更多的意见,尊重、欣赏和改变的人。如果他们拒绝,从不尝试,不承认他们缺乏努力&继续他们的方式。F。物流、财务& feasablity都可以找出&需求在北美社会至少如果你选择。不提出,但不否认自己的缺点,如果你有。 If so, over come them, master & own them. Then you have grown & taken your personal power back. Its not about a fight & winning. Its about being you & the responcible, capable, unique, diverse, adaptable, best mother F'ing parent you could possible be. Im not a big fan of cutting other parents out of childrens lives as they are needed, unless they are needed out. some do for sure. but thats case per case. God speed & hold true to your beliefs & morals. We all knew better, but refused to accept the reality of our situations. hang in there until change is futile & your growth is ripe & ready. Much love fellow earthlings!
我和他已经11年。我们的孩子在一起。我很害怕他会让我做坏的人,失去了孩子。我总是觉得我做出了正确的选择。他甚至可以弯曲最小的东西是可怕的事情。这就是为什么我不想离开他。我的双胞胎女孩7和4。我担心女孩会认为他在做什么是很正常的。他的母亲也出言不逊。她是10倍,在我背后的人去谈判。 I hate all of this. I wish I could leave. My family supports him :/
停止战斗。实际上,与施虐者停止战斗,你的内心的声音。读://www.5wetown.com/blogs/verbalabuseinrelationships/2013/12/fighting-for-peace/
我希望它有帮助。
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我很高兴我发现了这个网站,我只有结婚4年,有一个儿子,但口头谩骂,只是....精疲力尽,我听到的故事,帮助每个人都提供了,但是它太困难,我有家庭附近,但是我没有钱,和试图让我自己,我的儿子和我们的物品是很困难的,加上我为我的丈夫感到糟糕,不知为何,我的错,但是他说一切都是我的错,所以什么1件事,我知道我需要帮助,我就不能得到它,我不能等待离开。
我非常高兴我找到了你的博客。我口头施虐者已经生活了近25年。我住至少600英里从任何亲戚,所以简单的离开不是答案。我必须制定一个计划。它会很难,但我必须这样做。我必须离开我的理智。下周我要开始咨询。每年可以带我,但我只需要做一个坚实的目标并坚持下去。