如何离开辱骂

几天前我和我的女儿的父亲(我的名字他B)我告诉他永不回来,我就叫警察。一切都瓦解得太快。我们的关系很不稳定的B将威胁离开几乎每天都(不夸张)。终于,我也不在乎关于b,我儿子的父亲去世了(一个关系我15岁),我的儿子现在15岁。B是一个不好的例子,这就是为什么…我告诉他,我不允许抽大麻在我或我的孩子但他拒绝让我告诉他他可以和不能做什么。我遇到了B和认为我恋爱了但是现在我问自己你怎么能爱一个人你不给足够的时间去了解吗?我必须知道我喜欢他就越少。我和我们的女儿很快怀孕。在我怀孕期间,他会在半夜离开,当天晚些时候回家。 He told me that he wished he had a beautiful girlfriend like the one his nephew has. It made me feel awful. When I told him I was having contractions he yelled at me and told me I was complaining for nothing before I had the baby. I was on the phone with my mom asking for her to take me to the hospital because he would not help me get there and told me to go back to sleep. "I'm being ridiculous" then he ripped the phone out of my hand and told my mother F-U. She has never liked him since. At the hospital I am surprised the police were not called. He would yell at me in the middle of the night and taking care of a newborn after surgery and the lack of sleep is hard enough. After all of this I still stayed with him still hoping we could change together and was so happy to have a new baby. The constant unhappiness, him leaving me at odd hours in the morning, dealing with his drug problem issues with meth. The constant lies. Then fighting over giving our baby her first bath because he did not want me to show him how to do it. ( I had experience with my only son) I had extreme difficulty with sleep. I was in the hyper manic mode where I was so exhausted with the baby but my body could not reach that state where I could relax enough to go to sleep. I was hospitalized in mental health for becoming comatose after not being able to sleep for weeks. I lost my daughter who is now 1 year old. His parents are taking care of her and have been since she was a month old. I have been very depressed over this the last year. I do have her with me 2 days out of the week which I am grateful for. He is always telling me why don't I care about her like I do my son and other insulting things like I do not give a s*** about our daughter. He slapped a visitors pass he had still stuck on his shirt on her stroller after we had taken my son to the ER and he slapped it on her stroller. He told me our daughter is just a visitor in my home. This totally contradicts what he did to me in my pregnancy...telling me I was selfish if I did not get an abortion with her. The final and last cherry on top of it all came just a few days ago when he came home and called my son an f****** liar and he was going to beat his a**. I told him I NEVER want to see him again.

伟大的文章上面,谢谢!我已经结婚六年半,一直试图离婚9个月,但仍在过程。我真的感激,因为我的事情,我开始找回自己!我一直认为自己是一个强大和聪明的人,但是不断口头/情感虐待对我付出了代价。我真的感觉我失去了自己。其实我觉得自己像一个疯狂的人,因为当你曾经做任何决定是正确的,你就停止生产。我的丈夫不仅不支持我的大部分努力,他会破坏我看,要我失败!这对他是令人满意的,因为它使他觉得重要的就像我需要他。他瞪着我,生气了我很多,甚至chastized我在半夜起床使用浴室如果我有!我走在鸡蛋壳不断。 I took antidepressants to cope, but I woke up one day and said NO MORE! I told myself that I wasn't going to pacify the situation anymore. I told myself it was going to SUCK, but that I had to be prepared to feel the full weight of the situation to get mad enough not to be manipulated into staying together anymore. Antidepressants were not the answer for me because even though I was depressed, I had never been depressed before and my mental state was from abuse....not depression! My husband actually filed for divorce from me twice. Through both of them he kept trying to sleep with me to void the divorce. He would be nice and arrange family outings and bring me flowers. Call it manipulation, call it him being a dumbass and realizing what he lost, who cares?!?!?!?! We reconciled the first time, but the second time I knew this was it. If I went back now it wasn't a mistake or him tricking me, if I went back now it would be my choice.
到我现在,我需要,我不在乎,如果我生活在一个纸板盒,只要我有我的女儿和我的婚姻。我听到这个问题,更重要的是,所有你或你吗?当我听到这个,我知道答案。我是比我更重要。这就是为什么房屋,材料项目,和金钱是好情感施虐者的操作工具。一旦你与你和好比每一个其他材料更重要的事情在家里,那么你不能有这些东西在你头上。作为一个例子,我被告知,我要赶出房子,得找个地方住,他将我的女儿。当我终于说,好我不在乎房子,把它!当他对我停止使用它。事情也变得泥泞的部分对我来说是我的女儿。 He filed for custody the first time and told me he was going to say I was a drug user, cheater, workaholic, unfit mother. He actually wrote in his court statements that he was the primary caregiver of our child and that I had minimal interaction with the child since birth. *Did I mention this was going to suck?!* There were definitely moments of weakness where I asked myself if fighting over my daughter was worth having to have him constantly lying about my character and having a go at me. I always shoved those feelings to the side pretty quickly though. I would lay down my life for my child, yet I found myself questioning if the fight with my husband over custody would be worth it, and I knew that was the abuse talking...not me. For a long time, I convinced myself that I could put up with almost anything so that my daughter could have two parents with her as much as possible. I had a smart friend tell me it was about quality of time instead of quantity of time, and he was right! My 80% of time with her without feeling stressed out and anxiety ridden all the time is better than 100% of me while my husband was around. My relationship with my daughter now is WAY better and closer than it has ever been. I actually get to be myself with her, and she gets to see the real me with my undivided attention given to her. I get to focus on being a MOM and not side stepping arguments with my husband. I felt like I was a good mom before, but I know I am a better one now. Now, we get to have fun and laugh A LOT! Real laughter these days, there is a difference...I can feel it when I laugh. She turned six this week.
帮助我什么……
治疗。我花了一段时间的治疗之前,我甚至认为我是被滥用。如果你在这里看着这个网站,那么你就已经领先于我!从治疗一些“啊哈”的时刻:1。我想知道为什么我的丈夫会很疯狂,我是踢足球一周一次。自从我十岁我发挥了竞争的足球。治疗师告诉我它是好的参与正常,健康成人的活动,我不应该觉得我不能,或者我需要许可。*这是疯狂的在我的家。* 2。合作伙伴是一个队友。如果我们篮球队,我有一个伟大的球员成为队友,但他从未通过球,是别人我真的希望我的团队吗? Doesn't mean he isn't a good basketball player, he is just not someone you want to be on a team with. 3. Relationships are about 'relating'...if your partner does not acknowledge your feelings or listen to you explain how things are making you feel, then that's not ok. *Seems logical now, but groundbreaking at the time.* 4. When your partner says mean things to you, it's ok to step back in your mind and say to yourself, "No, wait a minute, I know myself and no, that's not me." Just because your partner says you ARE things does not make them true. 5. When you feel like something is wrong, it is. That's you're body/mind telling you something is wrong, and anger is an emotion that doesn't have to be cast away all the time. It's ok to recognize you are angry about things in order to begin dealing with them. If you push your anger away all the time, then most likely are not dealing with the reasons for the anger.
如果你担心治疗费用,不要让这你绕道。找到一个方法来看到有人(我的丈夫辞去溶血尿毒综合症的工作让我他的保险)。我可以想象在这种情况下,几乎所有人都将受益于治疗。还没有在法庭上用来对付我,和他去了一定长度的东西,所以我可以告诉你这个还没回来困扰我无论如何喜欢我认为它可能。然而,如果你是在任何处方,可以在法庭上长大,但法官似乎并不在意的东西被规定。
书。在Audible.com上克里斯蒂保罗的爱不应该伤害。她经历了这基本上提供了一个深刻的账户,什么,为什么这一切。听这本书帮助我识别更多的情况下,我甚至不认为是虐待....当我呕吐和生病的一天,他拒绝离开工作1.5小时早从日托得到我们的女儿。她有很多独特的技巧如何找到辱骂的好处。听起来很奇怪,但很治愈。这本书治好了我的天比我自己可以做。
书。凯伦·凯西。每一天都是新的开始。女性的每日建议的书。最初创建的吸毒者和酒精的用户,但它适用于所有的女性。
Pinterest。我有一个委员会专门报价。然后我做了一个专用的离婚。当我感到虚弱,我读我的离婚董事会我好报价和isntantly加强。大量的收藏包括,“我和我丈夫离婚....宗教差异他认为他是上帝,我没有! ! ! ! !”"I didn't change, you just never knew me." "Never get jealous when you see your ex with someone else, because our parents taught us to give our used toys to the less fortunate." "On the other side of fear lies freedom." "Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low-self esteem, first make sure you are not surrounded by assholes." Obviously, they range from serious to funny. I won't put anymore so you can discover some of these gems on your own.
搜索控制行为。前几天我在网上读到一篇文章关于如何控制男人/女人试着在你的生活中删除任何类型的外界刺激包括家庭,朋友,工作,活动。他们参与常数的指控作弊(也在格林兰保罗的书)。和更多。
配备一台录音机。当事情变得很糟糕我就躺在那里吼和混乱。我终于开始记录事情后他告诉我他会在法庭上对我撒谎。我觉得我需要一种方法证明他是错的。这台录音机记录在自己的手机上了近一个小时。你可以下载一个叫录音机程序,记录所有电话和您可以删除你不需要的。我了黄金在几个录音但特别是在他进来后他搬了出去,开始了一场争执。他把东西扔向我,打我的脸,然后叫醒我的女儿在床上坐在我旁边。我问他一遍又一遍,最后说,我将叫警察。他告诉我,我没有证明一个争执,只是第三方heresay以来我没有瘀伤我的眼睛。 Maybe this is where I should mention my husband is a police officer. So it was pretty daunting knowing I was going to have to face him in court. Words of caution on this: I NEVER told him about the recordings and never played them for anyone except my lawyer. You can't let the recordings ever be known or use them as leverage before court. You have to back them up to cloud storage in the event somethings happens to your phone. You have to password protect your phone unless you can move all of your recordings to internet/cloud storage. If someone calls while using the tape ecorder it stops that recording and it won't restart on its own. You have to manually restart the tape recorder app or put phone in airplane mode to avoid calls.. He didn't know about these recordings until the day of court. His lawyer still tried to accuse me of being at fault for the altercation and accused me of chasing him into the next room to continue the altercation when I was asking him to leave. *Did I mention this is going to suck?!* You should also download a screenshot app. It is helpful for many things including taking pics of my call logs when my husband accuses me of not letting him talk to our daughter to show either they did speak or he never called. I just attach the screenshot picture in an email and send to my lawyer.
你并不孤单。得到你的支持系统。家人、朋友、律师。意识到法官看到控制行为,应该能够很容易识别它。尽管他的律师,我已经几乎所有要求,即使我没有,我准备住在一个纸板盒,只要我有我的女儿。这不是感情的法官。这是生意。你也需要这样对待过。
不要放弃你的权利。我的丈夫想让我放弃我的审判在我们县的婚姻住所。这意味着我开车去他对每一个法庭听证会。他试图说服,獾我一遍又一遍没有律师和指责我是白痴浪费我的钱。他试图让我接受不到我有权,我同意一些事情不知不觉地只是为了摆脱他的纠缠,但我的律师不让我。你会为一个律师支付2500 - 5000美元,但你需要有人在你的角落,你有权知道法律。如果你放弃100美元一个月的孩子支持,每年1200美元的然而许多年,直到你的孩子18岁。你的律师可以设置收入扣除订单,这样你不是在你的配偶的心血来潮(控制)当你收到结算资金。
日报》。我的治疗师建议写一封信,我不会发送给他的我想说的一切。我认为这是愚蠢的,但是是很好!最重要的是,没有从他争论,我总是最后一个词。
记录。记录的文本、电子邮件、图片相关的案例(如他/她扔东西的后果),录音,语音邮件,甚至写下事情说日期,时间,等。认为它就像一个储蓄罐。每次你存款的信息你四分之一放入虚拟储蓄罐。越大你的银行得到了你可以做更多的用它后,你希望你的虚拟扑满大于你的配偶。如果顺利的话你可能没有使用任何,但如果他们变酸,然后你可以粉碎扑满在紧急情况下打开。写日期和时间是有帮助的。照片是值得一千字。录音价值10倍。
保持冷静。我的丈夫和他的律师在法院有相同的策略。让我失去它。他将尽力煽动我揍他,这样他就可以宣称我是施虐者。他的律师是咄咄逼人、指责,粗鲁,操纵,一个真正的女巫。她想让我在法庭上煽动看起来像一个白痴,并提供一些类型的验证记录上的虐待。我不是一个平静的类型的人,但我可以清楚地看到他们的战术和比赛的平静。这是更重要的是与自己赢得比赛(我失去了如果我让他们心烦意乱我)比失去他们的战术。这就是磁带录音帮助。他们让你是对你最好的行为。 Your spouse will still act like their own regular jackass. This is also good practice in staying calm and not cussing for court on down the road.
禁用你的Facebook账户。我的律师告诉我没有张贴在Facebook上。我觉得似乎有点过头。然而,他几乎是跟踪我。我很紧张,他将如何应对人民定期评论照片之类的东西。他也看了我的账户,当我的女儿有iPad。我将它设置为禁用,它就像一个从肩膀上卸下了沉重的负担。我甚至不要错过它。任何你喜欢的日期,让交友网站的账户,或任何法院公平游戏,直到离婚已成定局。
榨汁!榨汁的水果和蔬菜会让你的身体很多的营养你的身体需要应对压力。我爱榨汁,有自己的Breville榨汁机。你也可以在全食超市新鲜蔬菜。我的丈夫恨我也这样做。他认为这是愚蠢的。
几个段落前,我意识到这是少一篇博文,咆哮,但我经历了很多,我相信你也。我有一个伟大的童年,伟大的父母,很多的兄弟姐妹,大学学历,玩很多运动,好朋友,好小子,不错。,不知怎的,我已经进入了一个地方在我的生活中我觉得一文不值。我从来没有约会过一个虐待的人,娶了一个。我和还是有些天真的婚姻应该是如何工作的。我的婚姻这么快就变得如此糟糕,我甚至不知道什么打我!虐待和控制关系可以发生在任何女人(或男人)的任何种族,种族,教育水平,收入水平,你住在哪里…它可以发生在任何人身上。这不是你的错,但你确定问题后一段时间后它将是你的选择,如果你让它继续下去。希望,这可能帮助别人。我希望没有冒犯任何人。 I recognize that abusers are not only men. In my story it is my husband. Also, I'm quite sure that abuse won't just go away. So, you should work on yourself to prepare for the road ahead. A saying I repeat to myself often now is, "it takes ten times as long to put yourself back together as it does to let yourself fall apart." When I feel weak and powerless, this helps me to not give in to to the feelings of wanting to give up and just get stepped all over. Before I felt like it would take all my strength just to get through a divorce, and now I feel I have so much strength that even though my spiteful husband is as nasty as ever, I only have to reserve a small amount of strength to deal with him. A lot of the rest of my energy now goes to other things including my daughter and playing "man hamper!" Yes, it's a silly game we invented in between me typing this and playing with her today where she sits in the hamper and makes it talk like a man. Once again, confirming that my new found laughter is deeper and richer.
善待自己!

虐待是一个最困难的情况下。我住在一个婚姻与口头和身体虐待。害怕我什么也没做,直到有一天,他打了我的脸。当我尝过血液在我口中,害怕失去我的生命,我决定不再可以蒙蔽我的对他的爱,我不得不离开。这是最好的,我可以为我自己做的。不要等到你的生活。得到帮助。不要等到为时已晚。上帝保佑。

语言滥用我知道愤怒,家庭自恋者鼓励他们搬去和她并成为贫穷当我无力跟上两个家庭。他们应该跟她生气的说出来支持我提供他们住在家的时候,她是他们的英雄,我是恶棍。我已经提醒的可怕的事情发生在我身上,他们煽动。例如;我只经历过暴力的男人接触。他们没有意识到我能看到的区别。其中一个说,她是更好的比我父母在护理硕士学位,和1个孩子。我有一个高中文凭,和三个孩子)这是一种不公平的比较。我最后一次移动其中一个建议我摆脱我的家具。她不知道我必须摆脱一些家具无论如何,因为它被湿受损。 During the next argument I was told that it was Karma that i did not have that much, and the other person has 4 houses. So What? The more unphased I was by the comments the more vicious the onslaught.I decided to go no contact. Telling them to Live Long and prosper. The Narcissist who is usually careful managed to fall and fracture a bone afterward.I sent a message through a third party for her to get well and I am still No Contact I suspect that she injured herself to force me to contact her.

我不知道去哪里或做什么。我没有钱和工作前景。我的丈夫一直在口头上,有时身体虐待我自2000年我们结婚。他叫我每天这本书里的每一个名字。他所说的(结婚)朋友妓女和要求我看不出他们。今晚我有一个计划的女孩晚上喝咖啡和聊天几个小时——我的丈夫曾威胁说,如果我去他将支付我们共同的银行账户,我将走上街头。我理解他操控我,但他的虐待是每天,有时每小时。我感觉像一个破碎的女人。我的壳。他讨厌我的家庭,并可能开始与他们争斗,如果我们在一起。 This morning he said he was going to email one of single friends and tell her he wanted to F*** her. I don't even know what to think anymore I am so burnt out. I am struggling with my home business and am making little money. He calls me stupid and useless daily about this but does not want me to work away from home even though we are struggling financially. I feel as if I am in a prison...

我已经口头和情感虐待和我和我的孩子,我们没有结婚,我需要先做什么,所以他不能把他们当他访问

我只是想让你知道你是正确的
的立场。耶,你是勇敢的和知道你没有
应该被嘲笑,践踏。
有时立场可以造成更大的伤害
你相信,但你知道真正的故事和正义
为自己和孩子们是正确的。他说,这些
因为他想要休息&希望你给他
理由离开你,离开或告诉他是的,仅仅
他也忽略的原因。他可能想要一个永远的休息
和你做的事都是正确的但他他内心深处
自我为中心&累如果你是的&准备新的。
我是丧偶和再婚和微光永远不会明白
他固执的方式对待我和生病作证
如果我不继续推动修好我们回来
在他离开后,他就再也没有回来。
但虐待你写的单词我&
体验。就有人钱看起来
他会准备好逃避生活的关心
他总是做的。一组财务保证
好和对生活的新的开始,这将是最终& w /他。
一些死亡只是不适合你不管
我们希望它。

我不确定我对我的婚姻采取正确的apporach但我和我丈夫已经结婚8年5。大约4年我们没有相处我想要改变我成为教会的一员,改变最好的明智态度还更好。近6年我丈夫一直叫我每个名字在书中,他还说他讨厌我我让他生病的他希望他从未结婚等等。但他确实这些东西当他疯了,但当他不是疯了他是世界上最伟大的人。我们有2个孩子在一起很快3和7天前发生了一场争论,他离开他的母亲和父亲的。就在那一天,他叫我白痴,我告诉他我已经出去。了他的一些东西,带到他的父母。但他所有他的东西/ home衣服电视电子产品。我的意思是一切。我想他叫一次,但我错过了叫他还没有打电话给我检查孩子或说话他没有回家。 i feel like at this point i need to stand my ground and when he calls he calls if he doesn't then i guess i know what i need to do financially because he supports the family. i need some advice on what i need to do or if this is right what choice i made to make a stand for myself.

我已经离婚了,不得不离开我的前女友的丈夫,因为我欺骗了他,但我3和他一起长大的孩子们不想知道我只有我回到我的前女友的丈夫,我是三次,但是每次他带我去银行,把我所有的钱所以我不会再去一次,这是第三次我走开了,与我爱的人,他照顾我尊重我,但前邮件我说回来im thinkung回到我的心说没有当我想到我长大的孩子说,是的。我害怕不知道该怎么办他说如果我不回来他会得到别人那么门sut上我我应该做些什么帮助我请我现在困在决策之间。

我想离开我的,但它是很难的。我有eubpd,创伤后应激障碍和儿童保健。
我有问题是我的施虐者只有虐待当我不同意他或有一个意见。也他为由提出离婚我的不合理的行为,我只能试图捍卫自己从他的身体暴力。当他身体暴力,然后他转向酒精,过量,使自己在医院里。
他利用我的心理健康对我离婚,他说离婚我是他将他的孩子们回来的唯一途径”但cps告诉我他们不会归还给他。
我试着警察但我卡住了,因为他们认为我操纵攻击因为我的心理健康。他还绳子在我17岁的儿子,他已经被洗脑的他相信这是我的错。因为孩子们走进护理这有更糟糕的是,我发现自己口头虐待,情感敲诈的孩子,我认为贬低,完全忽略了我面对他的时候。
然后他诉诸出去的路上,我买东西和关怀让我相信他爱我的一天,然后就好像他讨厌我。昨天他告诉我的只是为了告诉他我想要改变我的医生。他需要我做什么不感兴趣,模拟使用的技能我教印度生物技术部说他不在乎的一分钟,然后告诉我他爱我。
我告诉我儿子恨我,称为“sefish婊子”在我看来孩子们对他的不同。我经历和我离婚,我相信我有一个更好的机会得到很好,即使我没有得到我最小的,至少我可以尝试我的年长的孩子。
我害怕,我感觉没有人相信我,我担心当我离开他会得到孩子。CPS看不到这因为他周围都是不同的,在与孩子们接触,他通过他的父母评价通过被欺骗。我知道当他们回家,他们会受伤,其中一人过去。但是他们很想回家,因为这个受伤的儿子害怕发言,似乎为他父亲的行为找借口。我觉得受害,而不仅仅是我的丈夫,而是当地政府不相信我的人因为我的心理健康。
如果有人在这里,我欢迎一些建议。

我已经结婚30年了。我做过最好的事(在她告诉我包装我的垃圾和离开)是离开。口头虐待妻子的影响这么多年已经严重影响了我。如果你的伴侣是口头虐待——出去;你无法改变他们。