How to Maintain Healthy Relationships Despite Work Stress

Maintaining healthy relationships when you're understressis difficult. For example, this past week, I had a really tough time at work. I was feeling sick, working on a lot of projects, and struggling just to keep my head above water. As the week went on, I became progressively morefocused on myself, trying to figure out how to get through all of my work and stop feeling so stressed out by it. Unfortunately, this meant that I was devoting most of my attention to myself and wasn't supporting my girlfriend as I normally would. By the end of the week, I was struggling to figure out what I could do differently to be supportive despite the stress I was experiencing at work ("Anxiety at Work - Stress in the Workplace").

每周工作困难可以让它真的challenging for us to maintain healthy relationships by supporting the people in our lives, whether that means significant others, a son or daughter, parents, or even close friends. It's easy to focus on ourselves and become wrapped up in the problems we're dealing with and to lose sight of how we can better care for others. Unfortunately, those weeks where we justfeel overwhelmedby work will always be there, so we need strategies to help us maintain healthy relationships even during the most frustrating times. Here are three tips I've used to draw myself away from my work stress and focus on others.

3 Tips for Maintaining Healthy Relationships in Spite of Stress

1. Be perceptive.For me, this is the most important step I can take to improve my relationships, but also the most difficult. When I'm busy and stressed with work, it's easy to get sucked into what I'm dealing with and not consider what other people are experiencing. This past week, for example, I was frustrated by an interaction I'd had until I started considering what the other person was going through. Once I did, my frustration and stress dissipated because I became focused on what they were feeling instead of on myself. Whoever you're struggling to interact positively with, start by setting aside your own concerns and focusing on what the other person is feeling. You may be surprised by how much better you feel and how much your interactions improve as a result.
2. Be open.When I'm stressed out, I usually want to keep it to myself and not discuss it with others. This doesn't work very well, however, because it reduces communication and can create new problems. In the same way that thinking about someone else's perspective can help you understand that person better, being open about how you're feeling can help others understand you better. For example, if you're feeling underappreciated by someone, it doesn't benefit either of you to keep that to yourself. Instead, share what you're feeling in a direct and (importantly) collaborative way. For example, "You make me feel unappreciated" is very different from "I love it when you compliment me", and the second is more likely to generate positive change.
3. Be present.When I'm working a lot, I have troublestaying focusedon any one thing. My mind jumps to the work I have to do tomorrow or meetings I have to schedule, and this makes it difficult for me to be present. Attention is one of the greatest gifts we can give to family and friends, and so when listening to others I try to fully attend to what they're saying. I've found that having a to-do list written before I leave work helps me think less about it once I'm home and this allows me to be more attentive.

Maintaining a healthy work-life balance will always be a challenge, but being more perceptive, open, and present can improve our relationships and reduce stress in the process.

What other strategies do you use to improve or maintain your healthy relationships?