生日抑郁是真实存在的——它不仅仅是悲伤
生日应该是令人兴奋的。不幸的是，对我们很多人来说，生日通常会引发抑郁、焦虑和压力。鉴于我恰好是那些遭受生日忧郁之苦的人之一，我可以告诉你，就像临床抑郁症一样，生日抑郁症也是真实存在的，不是一种选择。
什么是生日抑郁症(又不是)
正如我在这篇文章的标题中提到的，生日抑郁不仅仅是感到悲伤。它是一种抑郁症，影响人们在生日之前、期间或之后。根据我的经验，这就像临床抑郁症．(Tanya J. Peterson在文章中解释得很好“你能帮我理解抑郁症吗?”抑郁症解释道。“谢天谢地，它持续的时间没有那么长;生日忧郁通常会在几天或最多一周后消失。
然而，仅仅因为它是短暂的，并不意味着它容易处理。人们会因为你的忘恩负义和强迫而内疚有毒的积极性让事情变得更加困难。
生日抑郁是如何影响我的
坦白一点:我最近“庆祝”了30岁生日。因为这是一个里程碑式的生日，而且恰好在大流行期间，如果你认为这是我最糟糕的生日之一，那你是对的。是的，尽管收到了周到的礼物和问候，我还是情绪低落。即使我感激我所爱的人的仁慈，我还是感到焦虑、沮丧、烦躁、羞愧和冷漠。这种奇怪的、矛盾的混合情绪在我生日的前四天出现了。
生日抑郁何时寻求帮助
当我今天早上醒来时，我的生日抑郁症已经消失了。它花了7天消失，而去年是4天。在过去的几年里，我过生日的时候总是闷闷不乐，有时我仍然会为此感到内疚。所以这句话对我和对你来说都是一种肯定:生日那天不带着庆祝的心情是完全可以的。
即使你周围的人对你缺乏同情心或指手画脚，你也不必为了融入他们而假装快乐。如果做真实的自己让你看起来像世界上最疯狂的人(当然你不是)，那就这样吧。毕竟，这是你的大日子，不是他们的。
善待自己，庆祝最微小的成就改善你的情绪，要有耐心，因为这也会过去。也就是说，监控你的生日忧郁持续时间是很重要的。如果疼痛变得难以忍受或恶化，一定要咨询医生精神卫生专业．
你如何处理生日忧郁的情况?请在下面的评论中告诉我你的生日抑郁症。
APA的参考
谢赫，M.(2020年9月3日)。生日抑郁是真实的——它不仅仅是悲伤的，健康的地方。于2022年10月28日从//www.5wetown.com/blogs/copingwithdepression/2020/9/birthday-depression-is-real-its-more-than-sad检索到
作者:Mahevash谢赫
我还以为只有我一个人呢!我刚刚“庆祝”了我49岁的生日，而且情况似乎一年比一年糟糕。我现在害怕我的生日。今年4天过去了，我还是觉得很沮丧。我开始了美好的一天，但慢慢地陷入了糟糕的情绪。就像我的生日让我觉得我对任何人都不重要。我来自一个松散的大家庭。今年我收到了他们寄来的卡片，但没有电话。连我妈都没说过。我丈夫历来也不擅长让我觉得自己很特别。 It is very obvious that any effort he does make (the minimum. I could tell you tales of yellow sticker supermarket flowers and microwave curry but I wont) is forced, not because he wants to. So I then spend the day feeling unloved and spiralling into this awful place where I just want to hide under my duvet. I hate that false jolly conversation you have to have with people who ask if you are having a nice day when actually all I want to do is cry. And I do cry, in secret in the bathroom, several times. When I go to bed its with relief that its over for anther year. Next year is my 50th and I can't stop thinking about how bad its going to be and what I can do to get out of it. I am contemplating actually faking an illness so I can turn my phone off and hide in my bed. But I know I will just feel even worse if I do. And yes, I feel like a spoilt brat. I am a grown woman but my birthday makes me feel like I am about 10 years old and the emotions I experience feel like a child's. Its truly awful and it scares me that it gets worse as the years go by. I just can't see how to fix this.
我有严重的生日抑郁症。情况一年比一年糟。我恳求人们让这一天过去吧。今天是1月17日，我59岁。在过去的几年里，在那个可怕的日子里，我经历了几件非常痛苦的事情。当我心情不好，想一个人待一天的时候，人们就会大发雷霆。事实上，一个朋友坚持认为我必须庆祝，这是我的责任。当然，我有一些古怪的朋友。即使在46岁的时候，她的举止和穿着仍然像个孩子，所以我把这归咎于她自己的个人问题，但无法说服她我真的不再关心一个小屁孩了。被过分关注只会让人尴尬。 And the singing....oh Lord help me.....how awful that is. Treat me the same everyday. Please. My birthday is mine to not celebrate as I see fit. Yours was the most realistic article I have found thus far. Thanks for not being condescending like most of the other articles I have read. Some people think they get it, but unless they suffer the affliction, they truly have no clue. Thank you for helping. This has gotten worse for a decade now. Can hardly wait for the big blow of 60..... not. Ugh ! And yes the pandemic, scamdemic, plandemic, whatever one wants to call it, has not helped. I’ve lived long enough to watch my Country falling into a cesspool of disrepair and that seems to make it worse. Now the very head of my Country is the most evil creature on earth. So it seems my birthday is always tied to the results of an election year. Or the resulting disaster thereof in this case. No wonder I’m so damned depressed. Thanks for helping me with that breakthrough. Literally.