离开一段虐待关系

有人能和我谈谈吗，我17岁，和BPD有虐待关系。我觉得自己被困住了，无法离开。这段关系让我精疲力尽。

我有创伤后应激障碍，也可能有bpd。我和前男友有过4年的虐待关系。他攻击了我，还推了我几次，呛了我，使劲扯我的头发，我的脖子和头疼了好几个小时。我责怪自己，因为我的心理健康问题。但显然他有反社会人格障碍他会告诉我他爱我他需要我改变他的生活。当他要离开的时候，我表现得非常绝望，想要让他回来。我也开始厌倦他对待我的方式，我要爆发了。他会威胁要抛弃我，所以我也开始这么做，因为这是他表达爱意的唯一方式。我小时候被虐待过，我十几岁时的眼睛大多是性的，口头的和情感上的。我想他也是，所以我原谅了他，但我总是害怕他在追我。我几个月前离开了他。 Yet I miss him because he was all I had because my family is not there for me. I was always the scapegoat of my family and I think I'm taking it into other relationships. I felt so empty after I broke up with the ex and then he kinda left me too so I felt so sad because I was doing so well before we were actually together I had recovered from my ptsd and most of my bpd symptoms as well that now because I have no support from my scapegoating family I found anew boyfriend that I think may also be abusive. He's been asking if he could move in with me and he's locked up but I thought maybe he wasn't that bad because he told me he wants to turn his life around and wants to marry and have kids. But I think its fake. Because he asked if he can move in with me and we just started dating 2 days ago. And he will ask me if I have company over and think I'm cheating yet deny that's what he's doing, just like my ex. I left my ex because I could I had support. But my family has turned everyone against me and so now I have no one to help me except this new boyfriend with support. I'm not really all that interested in him because I think he just saw me as a vulnerable woman that wouldn't stand up to him, just like my ex. I was wondering, is it possible to get recovered? Because I feel so vulnerable and barely go anywhere because my ptsd is bad. Ill see older men staring at my body and it disgusts me how men just treat woman like objects to be used and not as humans. My ex treated me good sometimes and sometimes recall bad. Like the abuse. And my new boyfriend is really insecure it feels like but is hiding it and my gut tells me he's worse than my ex and could really hurt me if I ever see him in person. I just want help, but even the mental health people judge my disorder even though it may actually also be ptsd as well. Complex and just pays from my childhood and now my ex and this new boyfriend makes me feel like he has to have all the control so I just give in, even though he's not here physically it started out the same way with my ex and when we finally moved in together he got very abusive. Is it my fault? I keep wondering if its me or in abusive I can't be though I just wonder why I can't find someone who will treat me as a human and not an object and will live me for me and actually be there and be in a normal relationship.

让我们谈谈房间里的大象
虐待就是虐待!!期! !
不管施虐者是否患有边缘性人格障碍、自恋型人格障碍、反社会型人格障碍、表演型人格障碍或任何障碍。
如果你被虐待了，滚出去!!跑得越远越好!!
那就给自己找些真正的帮助吧!!首先，你需要找出不健康的人吸引你的地方。
如果你正处于一段虐待关系中，赶紧离开!!你想要什么?你是受虐狂吗?你在等着你的“爱人”找到一个新的受害者然后甩了你吗?你想被推到你的极限和SNAP吗?滚出去! !不然除了你，还会有人受重伤。滚出去! !在你怒斥施暴者或他们欺骗的对象或你自己之前。最终你输了。
快跑，跑得越远越好，给自己寻求真正的帮助，相信你可以和真正爱你、尊重你的人拥有正常、健康、幸福的关系。
人格障碍是在一生的尝试和错误中形成的。
虐待不一定要被容忍!!
也许一旦人格障碍患者明白了这一点，他们就会有动力去改变。

有趣的是(也许不是)，你在这里列出的虐待迹象是我的BPD重要的另一半对我做的事。
如果他们说这是我的工作，那么这只是另一个扭转一切(计划)以负责任地避免的例子。
这只是无尽的煤气灯技术之一。

在这方面很难找到知识渊博的人，但你听起来好像知道你在说什么!谢谢

我很少受到身体上的虐待，但精神和情感上的虐待非常严重，自从我们7年前认识以来就一直如此。我害怕和别人说话，因为我是男的，她是女的，我不想诽谤她，我也害怕如果我对任何人说她的坏话，她会报复
我的妻子是边缘型人格，她是情感上的恶霸。一切都得听她的，否则整个房子都得感受她的愤怒。在过去的7年里，她让我相信她所有的愤怒都是我的错，我也相信了。我现在才意识到真相。她是个恶霸，我做什么都不能让她高兴。书上的名字我都叫过了。没有一个是真的。我现在知道了。我只是想退出。当我告诉她我想离婚时，我害怕她的反应。 I have wanted one for a year now but haven't told her. Oh well, I know I need to get out. The abuse never stops and my mental state is deteriorating. I feel crazy all the time and hope to wake up from this nightmare but every time I wake up I have to face this harsh reality.

我正处于一段虐待关系中。我被打过，被咬过，被抓过，被骂过各种各样的名字。我工作，支持我的伴侣。我被贴上了BPD的标签。我的伴侣把他的愤怒和性格变化归咎于我。我感到迷失,empty.angry.sad。我没有自尊。我在过去的十年里没有社交生活。在遇到我男朋友之前，我一直在学习快乐。我内心深处知道我的处境很糟糕。我内心更强大的一面让我相信我错了。他抨击我。我刚开始告诉别人他对我做了什么。我很生气他嫉妒我的工作。我小时候遭受过言语和身体上的虐待。我希望我已经死了。我需要更多的帮助，而不是DBT和心理咨询。我怕有一天我会结束自己的生命。我害怕被抛弃。他打电话给他妈妈，威胁要离开。我在绝望中行动，然后恨自己。帮助我。