精神疾病和家庭动力学(不合群的人)

我认为内部孩子讨厌给他或她的父母这样一个困难时期。他们希望就像有人想幸福快乐。他们不知道如何修理什么是错的。任何一个家庭的感觉,我认为孩子的感觉更糟。对我们来说太难了不会生气或畏缩的攻击。我们必须一直记住它是一种疾病,我们不能责怪他们。然而我们需要设置公司边界的行为,看看我们可以期待。我们经常欺负到一个角落里,把它从合理预期。品种是绝望在我们和我们的孩子。它是非常重要的宽恕和遗忘和不断前进。 Never go to bed angry. Pray with your child and forgive your child. Comfort your child. This is really really hard when you have been attacked especially when your child is older because it is so pronounced and hard to excuse. You have to get a break, even if your child mistreats you for it, and takes it as a sign you do not love them. You may be looked upon as the only one who gives them love and acceptance, and the only one who is there for them. When you go out or get a break they may feel abandoned and panic. Scedules and dependability helps. Reassurance that you love them helps. Reasonable expectations and boundaries help. If you have not had any requirements for their behavior then you have to build up to a reasonable level slowly. Small steps will get you closer to where you want to be in functioning as a family. Consistency is important in establishing a secure environment for your child. That always comes first. Pointing out that you can argue and get upset and that happens in all families, but that you love one another, forgive one another and move on to try to do better each and every day. That gives us and them hope and courage. Prayer with your child can really help because it gives hope for change. Doing special things with and for your child let's them know that you love them no matter what. You are pretty much what stands between them and despair and giving up. Involve other family because they tend to stay away. Don't let them get away with that. Ask for structured family visits around an activity that will be guaranteed for a good time for all. Don't force family to interact with your impaired loved one because your loved one will feel their resentment. Try to help them make good friends and have some fun. Sometimes we are so much about our business and we are withdrawn from the troubled one emotionally. This really is destructive to a supportive relationship. When a mentally ill child or any child feels like they are a burden and not loved, they will act out more in an attempt to get the attention they need. If demands are too great they will act out a lot. It is okay to change your expectations and back off and give a child time to take self control. Unfortunately, with mentally ill people, it can take a longer time. How can you help the young child take self control. They can be involved in figuring out a plan for what to do when they are stressed and beginning to have a melt down in order to lessen it's severity or avoid it occurring entirely. Don't give up. And find trustworthy people to share their care and pamper them and physical activities for them to engage in to decrease stress levels, and deal with emotions. Most of all forgive yourself for not being the perfect parent. Apologize to your child quickly when you need to and make up for your short comings. Let them know you care in big and little ways. A simple hug can mean so much. Keeping your promises can be like gold. Tell yourself that life will not always be so difficult. Sing to yourself. Practice being thankful and counting your blessings. If you are a Christian, sing praise songs to God because that catches God's ear and the word of God says that he lives in the praises of His people. Live a life of reading His word, and prayer, depending upon Him for strength, and wisdom for daily life. Keep good friends who really listen and care about you. Have a life outside your children and your problems! Enjoy something! Keep your family informed about your struggles, because if you do not tell your family and friends what is going on they do not get a chance to care or help. Don't be afraid to ask for specific help either. Never give up. There is no way our but through. Love covers a multitude of sins is what the Bible says.......it means that it makes a lot of irregular and messed up things okay, because we just do not notice them or forgive them freely as we have been forgiven by Christ. God Bless. They read us like a book, we can not hide our frustrations from our children.

哇,这对我来说真的击中要害!我女儿刚回来后9天了,已经回到走在鸡蛋壳。我讨厌这样的感觉对我自己的孩子。

阅读你的文章描述了家人对我的儿子的感觉。有这么多,我可以写,但你的故事的共鸣,我和它欣慰的知道,我的感觉是正常的。

作为一个母亲一个12岁的女孩还没有诊断出患有双相(但我读得越多,我越确信)我经常允许类似的想法“泄漏”的朋友,只是感觉巨大的年底。我的女儿,你看,有两种身份:一个为她的家人(我们家的内部或外部边界,和她的一个朋友,老师和她同事的人。这是如此令人沮丧和隔离和坦率的你的话感觉舒缓,终于!我们一直小心翼翼她和她的“高保养”了12年,感到非常地沉重和穿。我们爱死她的但我们醒着的大部分是为生存而奋斗。谢谢你的工作把。新墨西哥州