婚姻和精神疾病:好还是坏?

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我丈夫昨天刚丢了工作,他迷失在的第二份工作3年。这是在他的母亲突然去世近一个月前,和多个诊断,m精神疾病(添加、焦虑障碍、性功能障碍)。我们有一个4岁。我们现在在一个收入。我丈夫已经和,这一点比以往任何时候都更生气。我的孩子已经开始收拾这些特征。这是令人心碎。我甚至难以进入工作由于所有的混乱,现在我唯一养家糊口的人。与精神疾病的配偶伴侣不在心碎,特别是涉及一个小孩。我已经试图应对一个无性的婚姻(他的选择,经过多年的夫妇的疗法)。 Now this. I’m not sure what’s left other than compassion, a love for our son, & loyalty.

我和我的夫人已经接近7年了。我25岁,她24岁。我们有一个4岁的儿子。大约一年,我们在一起我发现有点抑郁的她,但她总是安慰我,她只是偶尔下来。大约4年之后她的抑郁得到更糟恐慌焦虑发生的越来越多。她的性欲也大幅减少。然后她开始告诉我是因为我们的儿子出生。我完全理解迟到,她3年前只是一个少年的梦想和雄心壮志但现在不得不牺牲了我们的儿子,她从来没有打算。她和我甚至直到现在一直宝贝dovey夫妇,但她的焦虑是在我第一次见到的那个女孩。使用有坏天,时不时的,她的精神疾病最好的她。 Come almost 3 years later its now more of there is just 'some good days'. She has always been aware of her mental state but has a significantly harder time controlling it now. Weve worked to get her the help she needs but no resolutions came. We had a decent "behavioral" place for a little bit but the medications they tried werent doing anything but make it worse. After letting them know they still refuse to try diff meds for her and take her rejection to them as her being difficult and not wanting help. The hard part is other places we tried after all try to get her on the same meds and even with our info we give to them on how it's not helping we get the same resistance of its just her being dificult. We constantly let eachother know of the amount of love we have for eachother and both want the help for herself but its getting worse. She gets "triggered" now into explosive outbursgs or into extreme depression over something as simple as not having matching colored socks, etc. In tbe last year her filter has gone and I recieve much mental abuse from her. I know she doesnt truly mean the things she says, but when you hear it on a daily basis at least 3 weeks in a month it gets to me. Its at the point now where if theres anything wrong in her day she blows up on me, and with no retaliation or rebuttle on my part if im still not the one to go and apologize and comfort her after a session of verbally abusing me then it leads to a breakdown for her. She hurts herself, only herself. To the point where shell only stop once she hears what she wants to hear. This all would be less tense if I could be there for her more but the snowball is getting bigger and bogging me down. I work about 55 hrs a week and we only have 1 car. She has crippling anxiety to where she can barely drive withiout having an unsafe panic attack so I make all the commutes along with getting her to her part time job on my days off. She stays home the rest of the time with our son which she is a great mother too, but still sometimes gets emotionally unavailable to him which i understand. The biggest fear I have is not having the time to help her. We have no family around and cant afford daycare. She gets herself into this headspace while stuck home of depression and cries herself most the day til I can get home to help comfort her. Though this last no more than 30 minutes until her mood will swing dramatically. I wish i could be by her side constantly but someone has to keep the bills paid and my own mental health I feel is starting to deteriorate. Even currently she is in a hosp being watched after a recent episode. Her getting help is my only concern yet the problem is im now missing out $ and work (in which my position is relied heavily upon) to care for my son. I cant give up on her and wont but its hard when she herself has told me she wants me to give up on her and that id be better off.
任何直接的建议吗?
——你的当地无情的丈夫

嗨,女士们,
我的丈夫开始哭了,说他不知道他想要什么小论点1月后了。他的工作是非常紧张的,我们一直在为一个孩子4年。他让我离开我的祖国好几个星期,看他是否会想念我。在我离开之前,他不会碰我也吻我,只有我的额头!我也意识到在这段时间,我必须对自己做出一些改变。我出发前两周我们有难以置信的支流。他开始吻我但仍有这个小距离! !而在法国访问我的家人他的火焰比以往任何时候都回来。沟通,他会做出承诺,那一切都会好了! !所以我比以前更快乐我会回到快乐和爱的丈夫! ! At my arrival he caught the flu and I was his nurse for couple days! After that he was not excited we tried to have intercourse and it didn’t work!!! Couple days later I asked that question : is everything ok? He started to cry and said I don’t know!! Just like back in January and we were beginning of April! I told him to seek for help. I made an appointment to a psychologist, he is seeing him and likes him but I am not sure he is making some effort outside the sessions!!! He said he loves me and that’s why he is getting help. He is so cold with me that is getting too heavy on me and we are only 32- 33 years old!! We should be happy and embracing life!!
我决定预约到相同的心理学家,他说他可以给我一些技术如何接近他,他还说他将中年危机/抑郁。同时我想在2周去拜访一位朋友,离开他一些空间去想它。他是我一生的爱,但是如果我不能帮助,我不能放开的日子,觉得自己什么都不是。
有人经历经历过这种情况吗?你怎么处理它呢?
很抱歉长文本,得到它的感觉很好

我妻子从我4年躲她的抑郁和焦虑,直到出现月1我们的婚姻。详细列出的职业规划,她为自己所有的原来是一个谎言。她还藏钱的问题,我比我能想象继承更多的债务。我们有一个1.5岁的现在,我不知道该做什么。我想离开,但我是她唯一的朋友,支持者和收入来源、娱乐和陪伴。最重要的是她去年已经自杀的。她没有工作近3年,一直没有工作在开始的16。我理解她努力点,但我不明白为何有人会走进别人的生活,同时保持所有这些从他们的配偶或伴侣。我承担的压力影响了我的工作,我的朋友,我与家人的关系和我的健康。但不管怎样我猜

经过四年的婚姻和我的丈夫和两个孩子,他突然开始和别的女人出去,回家晚了,我每次遇到他原来是一个打击,他总是威胁要离婚我的时间,我的婚姻逐渐接近尾声。我所有我能试图阻止他这种不守规矩的态度但所有证明是失败的,直到我看到一个评论在论坛里关于牧师麦卢卡他们帮助人们团聚的爱情咒语在婚姻和感情问题,起初我怀疑,但决定试一试,当我联系这个牧师麦卢卡,通过电子邮件,他帮我把上一段时间,我丈夫回来8天内所有他所做的道歉并承诺不会再做这样,今天我们又幸福的在一起。感谢牧师mamuka更新我的婚姻. .他的联系lovesolutiontemple1@gmail.com。

经过四年的婚姻和我的丈夫和两个孩子,他突然开始和别的女人出去,回家晚了,我每次遇到他原来是一个打击,他总是威胁要离婚我的时间,我的婚姻逐渐接近尾声。我所有我能试图阻止他这种不守规矩的态度但所有证明是失败的,直到我看到一个评论在论坛里关于牧师麦卢卡他们帮助人们团聚的爱情咒语在婚姻和感情问题,起初我怀疑,但决定试一试,当我联系这个牧师麦卢卡,通过电子邮件,他帮我把上一段时间,我丈夫回来8天内所有他所做的道歉并承诺不会再做这样,今天我们又幸福的在一起。感谢牧师mamuka更新我的婚姻. .他的联系lovesolutiontemple1@gmail.com。

我很害怕我的丈夫和我已经在一起17年。我们有一个我自己和我们的家庭。所有我们的婚姻一直很健康和快乐。他3手术3年前和生活以来盘旋。大量的止痛药,缺乏能力做愉快的事在生活中,比如爱好,性冲动,散步等。
长话短说,在这期间我们没有健康福利,也没有收入他的雇主。这让事情非常困难,和我的丈夫感到很羞辱他的公司。我们最终让律师争取残疾,2年拖延,没有解决方案,没有收入没有什么....最后我们同意放弃法律诉讼为了拿回他的工作。协议,如果我们把法律套房,他可以回去工作至少@a年。他们带他回来。没有道德。他发现在2018年1月,当他们把他关掉,这是计划。他把它带到心脏,感觉betraded和自我毫无价值。我试着安慰他,这不是他的错。 Over the last couple months, monies tight, no work and he has been recently diagnosed with severe depression and has now been hospitalized. He is normally a big, living, giving caring guy. He now is a ZOMBIE and no care in the world! Not even for himself anymore. I am SO SCARED OF WHAT MY/OUR FUTURE HOLDS!? I just want my husband back! HIM to be HIM. I am 110% supportive of him, but I'm horrified of him being a different person after. They're estimating 1 month treatment, hospitalization. He says I LOVE YOU because he said he knows he should, but has NO FEELINGS for anything or anyone. He talks so gently and slow. It breaks my heart. I don't know what to do to help him., Or don't do that would help him? I'm so scared of losing my husband to a breakdown and our life changing or separating. He says I'm better off without him. I told him I'm not one of those wives that is here for the money.... Clearly there isn't any, and I love HIM TO DEATH!! But I don't know what to do or expect... Can someone please help me? Can a marriage be saved after clinically severe depression has been diagnosed?? I'm so heartbroken missing my hubby so much!!

你好,
经过24年的婚姻,和在一起27年,我的妻子告诉我她不再是爱上了我。我的世界完全改变了在那一瞬间的时间。
我59…她是49。我们现在有两个孩子都是成年人,最年轻的是18岁。
性侵犯时,我被一个父/ 3…不是相对的。只发生一次…,不被任何人发现。我“冻结”那一刻…然后6年后,当我是9,我又受伤了。这些事件的影响,以及生长在一个没有情感的家由我母亲的支持的独裁者和被动,我和性发育是扭曲,变得非常善于独处。这种生活方式使我好羞愧和内疚,我无法理解我为什么不适合- - - - -任何地方。
我试着自杀在23岁…从那失败我最终获得专业的帮助——首次获得的理解“为什么”我在我的方式。花了很长时间,我所做的好的新见解…和我离开治疗独自思考我仍然是好的,但有更好的理解和应对策略,在生活中我需要继续前进。虽然不久,我发现自己又“独自面对世界”,回到之前做我做的事情我的自杀企图得到一些连接和快乐。我继续住这“谎言”——是一个真正的双重人格者…直到我遇到我的妻子——曾/有一颗善良的心我以前从未经历过。
我很高兴终于有人爱…我的第一和唯一的爱…我停止反社会的破坏性行为和我们一起典型的年轻夫妇快乐——我们从来没有伟大的性,但是对于所有婚姻的其他方面——甚至是交流,我们一样快乐。我没有告诉她我的过去…直到我们开始疏远——性——我们的儿子出生后,这是6年的婚姻。性随便离开了大楼,和生活了。缺乏亲密的问题会时不时,总是从她,总是为什么“为什么我们从来没有做爱了”。我不明白为什么我不能提交这最后一点我对她的爱。她承认,她也有亲密的问题……所以…更多的时间流逝,我们保持“尝试”…“工作”……然而即使在一起参加婚姻咨询…它从来没有得到解决。 And I knew that deep down inside my psyche I had unresolved issues – or aftereffects – of the early abuse, and the damage to my “self” that had never been repaired.
2017来了,两个自己的孩子,我决定尝试和退休,我妻子和我致力于再次亲密/性问题…我们甚至计划8月份度假——我们为我们是第一个在一起超过20年。我们有一个伟大的时间…但从未有过性行为。然后我们回家…谈论更多…一次又一次我们都走向了另一个。
然后我犯了一个错误,写下对我发生了什么事,当我还是个孩子的时候(我有,多年来,告诉我妻子所有的这一切,这是我第一次写下来),给她读也许…也许…帮助她了解我更多。我妻子的反应是完全和完整的让我震惊。她告诉我,她知道我在痛苦中结束这一切,但她是“不再是爱上了我”,她希望分居和离婚,她没有看到我们曾经一起回来。她接下来说,她以为我一个人会更好。
这是在9月底。我声明非常糟糕…我已经“打开”所有,狗屎在我的脑海里虐待,忽视,信任,爱,男子气概,等当我将这一切写在纸上…我崩溃了,我无法控制我的想法。…我的妻子搬出去的家里,两天后我醒来我3岁受损的自我持有一个Exacto刀刀,一手拿我的阴茎在其他我希望削减我的一部分。我很害怕独自…所以…,它是如此的突然。
我意识到我需要帮助,我已经这样做。我不得不离开我的家社区没有可用的帮助——帮助可以是“等待名单”,仅供住宅设施外我的省份之间的等待列表(6 - 10个月长)。
我妻子的反应是一个完整的冲击——我真的相信她仍然爱我一样我总是爱她…她是我唯一的爱…我从来没有爱别人,我从来没有的爱着她。我在我们的婚姻是浪漫的。我从来没有一个线索…所以我无法理解她的反应。月我才振作起来足以找到我所需要的帮助和做出的安排,她退出了我更多。当然,我很搞砸了,我感到绝望。但是,我搜索,我发现一个新地方(在我的姻亲——真正的帮助下),被诊断出患上了pts,安排治疗,准备离开。
然后,清理我们的家用电脑的时候,我发现一个文件的照片。似乎3周之前我给她写了我的历史,并为我们担忧,她有外遇。这个发现改变了我脆弱的心灵更——它让我身体不适。我立即认为造成如此多的焦虑和这个可爱的女人,她改变了她的价值观…这…这…实现如此该死的痛苦。这种疼痛消耗我…这是什么驱使我-字面- 3700公里我需要专业的帮助。
我现在在强化治疗——此种疗法是一种幸福——三个月,已经取得了很大的进步与深刻的联系…这都是由我尽可能对自己诚实。它是好的。也很孤独。
我有太多的时间去思考…时,我很害怕我的未来我想想法如“做所有这些工作的价值是什么?“早期的创伤已经决心极大满足的在我的脑海里…我相信我的想法是真的我了。我又站在我自己的和自信地看看这座新的“礼物”…我只是不准备为自己找出最好的下一步…和我想知道关于我的理想在“爱”和“信任”和“共享”和“真相”,它是可怕的。我从来没有想成为“孤独”。
最困扰我的是什么影响我早期的“生命”对我的妻子……我真的不知道她了——她是不同于我现在…在痛苦中,我猜她已经很长一段时间,她花了很长时间让她的神经离开……我明白,一个智力水平。情感上,我非常没有她失去了…所以很难得知她已经计划一个假期下个月(2月-我们想做自己但从来没有)……,她是如此如此之快让我甩在了身后。这对我太难了——努力在我早期生活的问题是我现在深深地与…我现在已经崩溃。
太多的痛苦……太孤单…所以充满内疚和羞愧的/ etc,我让我的婚姻失败。我有最好的和我完蛋了不处理我的成年问题围绕着我出生在未知的问题儿童性虐待……第二十二条军规最好的。

我的丈夫有焦虑问题对许多人来说,许多年。我离开了他几年,回到和他当我的女儿5岁(而不是他的)。他来自一个困难的背景,他的父母遭受了婴儿猝死在整个家庭开始螺旋的负面的东西,包括他的父亲成为一个愤怒的酒鬼和殴打他的妻子。我丈夫患有焦虑症、忧郁症,我认为一点强迫症+抑郁。老实说,我不知道该怎么做了……这一切都让我觉得自己跳前的一辆公共汽车,因为它太硬。当他很好,我们笑得好开心,但当他下来,焦虑,健康问题…这对我来说太难了,我的女儿现在(15)和我年迈的母亲最近搬到(增加的问题)。

我的妻子六年前被诊断出在经过几个暴力事件引起的非问题。一旦治疗,一帆风顺,直到去年12月,当她有另一个暴力事件,但是现在我们最小的是一个时代,他会记得。这是她第一次自从她诊断。警方称两次,每一次我拒绝就医。告诉警察让她和朋友一起去。第二天,她开始离婚的过程,一个星期内她搬进了这些朋友,他们提出离婚。丈夫是她的律师。六个月后她仍然与他们生活在一起。我离婚争夺。到目前为止我还没有和她说过话。 Children devastated. Luckily, I have an incredible support group, have been in therapy as well as the children. I will fight knowing I will probably lose. But she is worth it. My only goal is to get her back in treatment and away from her friends. She has refused to return to the marital home, even if I leave it to her and I pay the mortgage.

这就像牺牲自己的生命来解决他们的生活

我和我的妻子都是基督徒,我不幸患有严重精神疾病的人奋斗! ! ! !我有发现”的一件事就是一些人包括一些夫妻宁愿点手指或放下爱一个人是挣扎而不是试图分享一些马上无条件的爱和支持,将抱怨的人没有得到更好! ! ! !我每天都生活在耻辱,因为我爱我的妻子和孩子我决定留在生命和问“上帝对他的帮助在克服这些困难! ! ! !”BUT WHAT MAKES IT MUCH MUCH IS WHEN YOU DECIDE TO DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO FIGHT AGAINST THIS TYPE OF CHALLENGE AND THEN TO SEE YOUR SPOUSE TURN AGAINST YOU AND NOT HELP BUT INSTEAD WANT TO ADD TO THE BURDEN BY PUTTING DOWN, BLAMING THE PERSON AND MAKE FALSE ACCUSATIONS AGAINST YOU AND THINGS SUCH AS THIS BRINGS SO MUCH MORE SADNESS ALONG WITH HELPING THE HOPES AND DREAMS OF BEING VICTORIOUS IN THESE STRUGGLES DRIFT FURTHER AND FURTHER AWAY!!!! WHEN YOU ARE ALREADY DOWN AND THEN TO RECEIVE THIS TYPE OF TREATMENT AND LOOKED AT BY THOSE THAT SHOULD LOVE YOU AS "DAMAGED GOODS" I CAN'T REALLY EXPLAIN HOW PAINFUL IT IS TO THE HEART AND SOUL AND ADDS TO THE POSSIBILITY OF THE PERSON STRUGGLING WITH THIS TYPE OF ILLNESS NOT TO SURVIVE!!!!" "LOVE IS SUCH A WONDERFUL BLESSING WHEN IT IS USED THE WAY GOD INTENDED IT TO BE!!!!" "BUT IT CAN ALSO BE USED AS A WEAPON OF DESTRUCTION WHEN IT IS USED IN THE SENCE WHERE THE PERSON IS MADE TO FEEL "THAT THEY ARE NOT WORTH RECEIVING ANY UNCONDITIONAL LOVE OR SUPPORT!!!!"

我妈妈暂时精神上无行为能力,丈夫带着离开她的一切仅够生存

我在类似的情况。我已经结婚10年了。两个孩子,最近生了。我丈夫有焦虑、抑郁和愤怒的问题。他是控制,而是在语言上和身体上虐待我。他想要勒死我当我怀孕了。我后悔生第二个孩子,不是abke给她一个幸福的家庭。一切都是他的方式,因为我所做的一切是错的就像在l微笑,说话的时候,裙子等等。这减少了我的信心和自尊。我的老大开始像他这样的行为和说话。我不得不告诉他,爸爸病了。
他拒绝治疗,不断说我给负能量。
我几乎不出去也不回家的孩子因为他希望我们和他所有的时间。
我做全职工作,孩子们在日托照顾。我不离开他的孩子发泄他的愤怒在我老大在l怀孕和l都使用我的力量来阻止他。
我感到筋疲力尽。我戴上假的保证微笑。我的同事没有一个知道的。

西安,你的感受和烦恼似乎有效。每个人都需要支持,特别是如果选择呆在一起,和成为一个护理员,配偶的精神疾病。与女士需要人照顾家庭成员的支持,与精神病女士要少得多。当然你觉得你做的方式,你是人类,重要的是你得到关心和支持来帮助你处理。这是一个概念叫做“自理”:人们能更好地维持一个关怀辊是否有支持到位;照顾自己的需求;某个时候,喘息。
也对其他人在这评论区,这是一个免费网站,可能是有用的为自己认知行为疗法等,配偶,孩子。
https://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome/faq
每个人都是不同的,我希望你所有最好的。如果我能发送恢复邮件,我会的。照顾你的自我;把你自己的氧气面罩mergency第一,因为只有这样,我们才能帮助那些需要我们的人。

我听到很多痛苦这些帖子,似乎很多人正在经历的困难,压力和挣扎。我只是提醒说,论坛,也许这不是一个心理学家后,你需要什么,反思是什么你觉得你需要表达,为什么你需要表达和跟踪到一个安全的空间(即顾问、心理学家、热线)。
有时婚姻(我们都是人类,在世界在我们与他人的关系方面)进入痛苦的周期重复模式和行为。
这是可怕的感觉困,改变是困难的。你有勇气,你有勇气,尽管它可能不喜欢它,你有选择。做一个预订和货比三家,直到你找到一个你信任的顾问;或加入一个网上论坛由训练有素的志愿者/顾问。所谓的免费热线电话如果钱是一个问题,有人会听你的话,方便你整理接下来你想做什么打破这个循环的功能失调和转诊。没有羞耻。为自己寻求帮助是很重要的。
女性(和男性),家庭和家庭暴力从来都不是好的。说到您的本地妇女组织或住所来帮助你找出如何保持安全或离开。
如果你有孩子,你感觉困,不安全,害怕或不确定要做什么关于配偶暴力,虐待,或者你害怕你伴侣的当前行为,使用类比你行走在eggsshells,了解更多自己最终将帮助你的孩子,他们会感谢你的。大量的配偶有这样的感觉。你并不孤单,你有帮助和更好的生活方式。和别人说话。
古德勒克。

哦,我忘记了。他在SSI,并不因为他的精神障碍。多年来他一直通过多个作业和他的愤怒在恐慌的人工作。他一直在SSI超过6年。他从未离开过房子,除非他有医生的约会。

我和我丈夫已经20多年,知道他30。他有一个非常糟糕的第一次婚姻,他不能信任的人。在我们结婚的时候,他被诊断出患有狂抑郁症/愤怒的问题。他在吃药一段时间,开始感觉更好。现在,过去10年一直直下地狱。他已经被诊断为精神分裂症精神病。他似乎觉得他也有快感缺乏。他说他可以从任何不再感到快乐,包括性。他把这归咎于这样一个事实:他是一个“好人”。他没有使用的人,欺骗,谎言,等等… He thinks if he would have done these things that he would still be able to feel now, because the people he considers "liars, cheaters, bad guys, deserters, etc" are living it up doing whatever they want being worshiped by those around them. He is focusing on people that I had relations with after I was divorced from my first husband, while he was STILL married to his first wife. Did I mention this first wife trapped him into a pregnancy? I mean literally trapped him? (put her legs around his waist and held on so she would get pregnant). He never stops. He just keeps coming at me about these people that have nothing to do with us or our lives. Honestly, these people have nothing to do with him at all. I am at a loss of what to do. He refuses to take his medication like it is prescribed. He is becoming more angry as the days go on. I am so afraid to have him leave because I'm afraid he might hurt himself or others. But, I am on the verge of a nervous breakdown! i have no one to talk to that would ever be able to understand what is going on. Advice anyone?

我的丈夫病了我们大部分的婚姻和非常易怒和不合理。随着时间的推移,他也认为诸如无线和移动电话使他生病了。他左脚开始下降,视神经炎。他去年被诊断为女士和去年这个时候他前往精神病分段,并最终得到了。他一直在医院在一年的大多数时间,只有他几个月的一场灾难,因为他并不能够为自己做任何事,整天咆哮失明。他是在神经精神病学单位被评估和治疗。他的情绪平衡,他不再是自恋。他也想成为一个真正的家庭,而之前他看到我们的儿子一块我们的关系。他没有一个心智能力测试有关决定他的健康。我非常爱他,这就是为什么我们没有分手期间行多年来,但我不知道如何对他的感觉。 He will be having an mri scan soon to see if the MS has damaged his frontal lobes. I just don't know how to deal with my emotions and am fearful that it will be another disaster when he gets back. He lacks a degree of insight into his condition but is articulate and looks like himself. I don't know who he is any more. I know that I need to pull myself together and not dwell to much on my worries.

我结婚近七年了我的丈夫我们有两个孩子。他有8 - 10之间的工作在过去的4年。大约一年半以前,他被诊断为焦虑和抑郁。我amso生气,充满怨恨,我不知道该怎么做了。我不知道该说什么了。我想相信事情会好转的,但我不知道。我不想成为照顾者了。我的感觉和需求呢?我太坏了,感觉困。我做出了这么多牺牲去一个更好的生活,但这让我们碍手碍脚。 We can barely afford his medication let alone the counseling. I feel so isolated and alone. I can't talk to him without coming completely unglued. I play our courting days over and over asking what I missed. I keep beating myself up. How could I have missed it? Was I that despair are for love? I'm so financially, emotionally, and spiritually drained. I feel like there are only pieces of me left and those are for my children's sake. I'm so tired and exhausted. To make matters worse I just found out I'm pregnant again. I feel so stupid and ashamed like a teenage girl. I just ache all over. I just don't know what to do anymore. I want to live freely but I feel like I'm dying everyday.

除了其它一些严重的问题,我的妻子的病使她相信我与所有的女人在我们的城镇,包括她的朋友。因此,她讨厌我,认为我是一个肮脏的疯子,她不让我碰她。药物没有帮助。我决定留下来陪她,帮助我能。我们有两个十几岁的孩子。
然而,我感到空虚,已经由我们的身体和情感上的距离。我应该做些什么关于我的性和情感需求,因为我不再有一个伙伴。
我不想觉得我欺骗她,但上帝创造了我们,我们尽量满足这些欲望但她不会让我接近她。
我应该找个人在吗?
撒母耳

我已经恋爱八年结婚明天2。我有双相情感和挣扎一生只维持生活的相似之处。我不是诊断untiI我在20年代中期。我有一个刚刚成年的孩子和我经历的这一切。我很遗憾我不强,每一天。所有的东西,但不是我的主要问题。我的丈夫有问题,它运行在家庭。但他甚至不会承认任何事情都是他的错。我用药物控制和理解与实践。他使用指责和威胁。 He constantly threatens divorce or hurting me. He has never out and out hit me but he has pushed me around and left bruises. Every time I need him to do anything that's when threatening and fighting begins.As long as I don't request or ask for him to do something we can go by day. But that doesn't stop it because we'll be going about our lives, everything is just fine not awesome, but fine. And bam! I'm nagging him, I'm a psycho, and he hates me, I made him marry me and he'll prove what a crazy I am and I'll have nothing. See I'm disabled and haven't worked in a very long time. He works, which is nice but isn't everything. He thinks that makes anything he wants, have or do or say is fine. He knew I couldn't work before we even started dating but I see now he didn't mind that because he could throw it in my face any time I needed him to step up as my partner. he doesn't pay my bills. He only makes more bills. I have to take care of all financial tactics. But if I don't pay the way he wants, so there is money for him to gamble, there is hell to pay. All he does is go to his job, does a super awesome job for them then brings home all the frustration and lack of interest. This is something I didn't know about him before I felt it was too late was he was in almost 30,000$ in debt. I didn't know this until the IRS started taking all my income tax. That doesn't count the numerous other bills he has added over the years. We just this last month paid off the last. And after 5 yrs of paying his debt and putting up with him promising to get help. His credit is best it's ever been and we can finally buy a house. He has told me that now that my credit is good and I don't need you any more, I want a divorce. And I'll get a house and you'll be left with nothing, because your a psycho bitch! He has made it where none of my small bills that is keeping my credit down have gotten paid and I'm worse off after being with him and trusting in my love. I don't know what to do. Because after everything I still love him. But he needs help, he is ex. military. And he has been in jail for abusing his daughter. Where they diagnosed him with Asperger's.Had an abusive relationship with his ex wife, but I push him, I make him, it's not him it's my nagging. His cousins have also recently told me about times they have gotten this behavior from him as well. I've never had these problems in any of my other relationships. So I know it's not me,which is what he gets infuriated at me for not excepting. I know myself. And yes I'm afraid that instead of the life that I thought I was supporting, now so close it will be ripped out of my hands, because my husband decides to be selfish and not get the help he (we) needs. And I will be on the streets. Which he loves to rub in my face. I know life is never fair,but there has to be something I can do to force his hand. I don't want to divorce, I want my life. Please some one out there, reach out to me, for I am falling further than I ever could on my own. I can't do this by myself any more! I can not carry his illness on top of my own without his willingness to help himself and us. Do on to others as you would have done on you, not because I'm religious, but because we're all human. Seriously at this point every single day I fight the thought that there is only one answer for me. And every day I feel myself weaken from all the fight that is life.

我在2009年被诊断出无极,我家没有人花时间教育自己的疾病或提供任何支持。40 yerars的婚姻后,他使用我的病对我,已经申请离婚。我的病花了我一生。

我刚刚看到这些消息。我不是一个人。我有一个可怕的时间。我失去了我所有的耐心。我已经结婚五年了,我有一个四岁的孩子。它与他第一次开始着迷。我甚至不能吻我的父亲或兄弟的脸颊或给他们一个拥抱。在一辆汽车。我甚至不能坐在我的兄弟。我不得不穿温和的衣服,在某种程度上,我不得不穿完整的袖子。
它在一定程度上是他开始把承诺从每一件小事,但我是不够的,他必须不断的提醒我我的承诺,请放心欣,我绝不会面包这样的承诺。
即使在今天五年后仍在继续。我受够了这些重复出现的问题。我tI红听到消极的关于我和我的家人。他保持的不尊重我谈论我是一块垃圾。一旦他侮辱我,他想问如果我记得我答应他又到什么时候。有些日子是好的。但是如果他总有一天他会变得更糟,后两到三天。他总是告诉我我和我的家人一块垃圾是一无是处,我嫁给他之后变得体面。我就快疯了。我不能够处理所有这些压力。 My four year son is tired of our fights and I'm worried about how it will accept him. I'm tired but I can't leave him. I simply can't. I don't even know why I still love him anymore. He is making my life he'll. I'm not able to handle anymore and I wish I could just die. He mentally abuses me all the time. Picks up petty fights. Keeps making me remember about my promises and telling me how cheap I was and how cheap my family are . I want to die but I can't leave my son in his hands. I can't do that to him. I can't even divorce him.
我需要帮助。
在我的生命中我需要和平。
我累了.....

你好,建议和评论都是感激,谢谢提前. .我和妻子已经结婚9个月了. .在一起7年了。她和我有一个6岁的儿子。她诊断双相情感的一种形式在2014年的某个时间,医生开了她的药,不过她只把这一次我相信,她说,这让她感到“间隔”。长话短说外,她还有很多起伏(主要是波动)和我困惑该怎么做。我爱她,但我做了如此多的帮助她和其不受欢迎的。她的兄弟姐妹们不喜欢我,因为我不允许他们使用她,他们有心理问题。我没有一个逻辑或意识在她的家人足够的交谈。她母亲是溜走痴呆51岁。 Her father is 54 and still running the streets and acting like he's young and married to another woman. But her and I moved to a more nice, quiter neighborhood in the first week of January, we moved from the next city where most of her family siblings are, there was always so much drama there, the neighborhood is much more expensive, but doesn't make any difference because I just want peace for my family..
东西好了头几个月,直到也许可能,当她的妹妹和她的表妹,她的一个“朋友”也开始打电话和她谈论八卦和戏剧背靠背似乎这持续了几周,当她停止做饭,清洗或其他除了性,没有交谈,除非它是一个论点或居高临下的谈话。我也煮和清洗时间的一半。6月一个论点后她离开,她走了两个星期,我们又开始说话,她回到家,大约两周后,同样的事情,我们争论她睡一整天,她每周工作20个小时,我每周工作80小时,她所能做的事就是睡觉,同样这一次她离开2 - 3周,我们开始谈论她回家。三周前明天我们大吵了一顿,她又走了,没有看到她近三周,直到周四(2天前)她和表妹出现房子和他们试图把我们的儿子,长话短说,警察来了,听到我们的故事,她是高的。他们让他们离开,我遗漏了一部分,她不曾见过,也想看到我们的儿子在三个星期,我不得不短信她,告诉她我要带她去法院,得到完全监护权,因为她放弃了他,这就是为什么她,像她关心。我的问题是你们有什么建议/认为我应该做什么?继续试。也许强迫她得到帮助?还是放弃?其打压我看无论哪种方式。 She's 32 years old, I'm 31. Thoughts? Comments?

我25岁结婚。我们有3个男孩。我丈夫已经6工作5年,现在再次使用。他总是思考的人跟随他。他是偏执与使用电脑和电话认为别人是黑客或录制他的电话。他忘记重要的事情,但记得的事情没有意义。他认为人们开车时跟着他,昨晚他停了车,遇到一个男人跟着他。它变成一个论点和我丈夫认为他没有错。他没有注意到即使在我的孩子们拍照。大喊大叫他们愚蠢的事情然后指责我所有的缺点和失败。 I want to leave him. I worry about my kids and how they will be when they get married. He is never wrong he never takes ownership on actions. He is not diagnosed with a mental illness he doesn't think he has one and gets mad at me for thinking that. He goes to counseling whenever it's really bad but doesn't follow thru. Tell me that his counselor thinks I am the problem. It's a mess. I want to take boys and just leave but he told me he will commit suicide and it will be my fault if I ever did. What should I do? We are always walking on eggshells when he is home.... tired of it but afraid to leave.