克服沉思很重要,因为沉思是当你停留在消极的想法。与自省,包括一个奇怪的和健康的思想和事件的探索,沉思是重复的和自我毁灭。反思的思想倾向于关注个人的遗憾,错误,和尴尬,这给负面的自我形象。虽然自省可以导致洞察力和个人发展,沉思让你困,困在一个循环的自我批评。

如果我能跟十几岁的版本关于真实性的自己,我知道我想说什么。我会告诉她的事情她是害怕的事情让她“怪异”实际上是让她棒极了。我会告诉她不要浪费能源害怕的判断,并把能量对享受的事情让她快乐。

在讨论的过程中建立自尊,我们经常关注从自卑到健康的自尊。但常常被排除在这个谈话的危险建筑太多自尊。是的,它是如此之高,以至于可能有自尊造成问题在你的生活中。

失败。这不是一个好词,是吗?对我们许多人来说,我们认为失败是一个明显的红色停车标志。“再进一步,“失败告诉我们,“你不够成功。”But did you know Walt Disney's first animation company was dissolved within six months? That J.K. Rowling's Harry Potter was rejected by 12 publishers? For both, failure was not a stopping point–they continued to try until they found success. How did they keep believing in themselves, instead of seeing failure as a message they couldn't succeed? They separated their work from their self-worth.

我们如何定义我们的个人价值?在上周我的帖子,“自我价值”,我探索自我价值的主题。当我们生活在自卑,我们经常很难找到自我价值。这个来自相信我们无法成功在我们个人价值的东西。但是这些值是从哪里来的呢?我们如何决定什么是重要的?

发展技能低自尊水平的提高有帮助,值得试一试。你看,当你有一个健康的自尊程度,你能够实现你的能力。你了解你能做什么,你是谁的。但是如果你自卑,这种观点就变得模糊。你很难看到你的能力。自卑会导致非常负面看法,喜欢你没有能力做任何事对的,实现任何积极的,或任何形式的发展。

什么是自我价值?如何自我价值显示在我们的动作吗?最近,我遇到了两个学生都收到了B +测试。第一个高兴地几乎跳的时候,第二个更柔和。当我问后者如果她觉得她的同伴一样的兴奋,她回答说,“我不能停止思考我错过了多少的问题。我是一个白痴。”Though both earned the same grade, one saw it as a sign of her worth, while the other saw it as a sign of worthlessness. This led me to think about, how do we define self-worth? What is it that makes one person believe they are worthy, while another that they are worthless?

我们必须学会说“不”,因为我们失去自尊的方法之一就是当我们不停地说“是”。我们说是即使我们拼命想说不。有多种原因我们可能会这样做。我们可能不想显得粗鲁。我们可能希望维护自我形象作为一个爱取悦人的人或人随和,令人愉快的,有趣,和开放的一切。但说yes,我们将不可避免地对付你的我们的欲望和兴趣。通过学习说不相反,我们可以建立自尊。学会说“不”可能是一个强大的尊重自己的方式。

探索你的自卑?你怎么做呢?图片的路线图。一边是一个明亮的红点,标注“高自尊。”This is our destination, the place we dream of arriving. Our map is covered in routes that twist and turn, approaching the red dot from all different directions. On our journey we will be able to explore these, finding the ones that lead us closer to our goal. But in order to begin, we need to find the dot labeled "You Are Here." We have to know our starting point. We have to explore the starting point of our low self-esteem to know how to raise it.

我的名字是布里特玛鲁,我是一个新博客HealthyPlace。我将写在“建设自尊。”This is a topic I’m passionate about and eager to explore. My own self-esteem exploration has taken me many unexpected places, including living as a monk in Thailand, musically directing a Broadway workshop, founding a non-profit organization, dancing and singing on a piano, teaching yoga and circus acrobatics, and fighting mixed martial arts (MMA). My journey with self-esteem has also taken me to some dark, miserable places I never thought I would escape. Needless to say, I have experienced many successes in my life and lived through many failures.